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#11 Kat81

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    Posted 28 December 2008 - 01:33 PM

    We paid for everything. My Dad gave us money as a wedding gift but it wasn't put towards the wedding. I feel that if they don't offer then they either 1. don't have it or 2. don't want to. We really felt we should pay for it ourselves though.

    #12 kristendotcom

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      Posted 28 December 2008 - 01:56 PM

      We didn't ask his parents for money but they gave us a very generous amount of cash as a wedding present. If I was in your situation I would ask your FI to just ask him parents if they would be able to help out financially with the AHR and see what they say. It doesn't hurt to ask right?

      #13 Erika J

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        Posted 28 December 2008 - 04:54 PM

        My Fi's parents are hosting the welcome dinner and paying they way for his sister her BF and thier son.

        My FMIL is also buying my dress for me as my mother and I have a strained relationship. She has also offered to help with OOT bags or favors.

        They have been wonderful to us.

        #14 jen_trev

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          Posted 28 December 2008 - 05:35 PM

          We're not asking but if his family happens to help us out that would be great.

          In your situation I would ask FI how he feels and go from there.

          #15 mandalaybay3071

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            Posted 28 December 2008 - 06:18 PM

            Just as I expected....it's across the board all the way. There are def no set traditions anymore when it comes to paying. FI is going to talk to FMIL after the new year. Knowing her, she probably hasn't offered anything because she probably doesn't want to step on anyone's toes (namely, mine). She is one of the sweetest ladies I know and def has her own opinions but she also knows I'm a pretty head strong girl so she only offers opinions or help when asked. We have a pretty good relationship so we are comfortable talking it over with her and her husband. And you are right, if they say no, well that is the worse that could happen. I really feel like she's just waiting for us to bring it up - it's her way of being polite. She's one of the smartest ladies I know so I know she is aware of all the usual traditions when it comes to paying. I'm hopeful they say yes! Thank you ladies for all your responses. I really appreciate it!

            #16 lil_miss_frogg

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              Posted 28 December 2008 - 09:20 PM

              My FI and I plan on paying for everything...but if I know our parents they will help outin some shape or form. My mom has already offered to do the flower arrangements. I know thy will turn out just like I want them this way! Good luck!
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              #17 Jennifer Davis

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                Posted 28 December 2008 - 11:46 PM

                My Dad is giving me 5K towards the wedding. My fiance's Dad is not giving us anything - except for sh*t that we moved the wedding from Sept to Dec - don't think we'll be getting any help from him =0)

                When Kenny and I started out, we assumed we would be paying for the entire wedding ourselves, so my Dad chipping in was just an added bonus. We'll use his contribution to hire an outside photographer and have a catamaran cruise for our guests.

                #18 HotTamale

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                  Posted 29 December 2008 - 01:10 AM

                  Good luck with the talk. I am paying for everything as my fiance is a full-time student, and his parents think we've lost our mind having a destination wedding. Everyone's situation is different. Take it as a blessing if they decide to help. Good luck, and congratulations.

                  #19 lscilley

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                    Posted 29 December 2008 - 09:31 PM

                    My FI and I were paying for our whole wedding then my parents stepped in and are paying for my dress and attire but his parents are giving us nonthing we are actually paying for his mother to attend the wedding.

                    #20 Lillie09

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                      Posted 30 December 2008 - 10:19 AM

                      We are paying for everything. We figured they will be paying for the plane and room so we don't want to put a burden on them.

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