Why won't he marry me NOW!?!?!?!
Posted 18 December 2008 - 08:35 PM
Posted 18 December 2008 - 08:52 PM
Posted 18 December 2008 - 08:53 PM
Some companies do have regulations on your domestic partner other than how long you've lived together, etc. Ours only allows a same-sex domestic partnerships, otherwise you have to go to the courthouse and get a certificate saying you're common-law married, which you might as well just get married cause you can still get divorced from common-law.
Posted 18 December 2008 - 09:12 PM
Posted 19 December 2008 - 04:10 AM
Posted 19 December 2008 - 11:49 AM
I'd say re-work the numbers and adjust where you can. You have waited a long time for your wedding day so would not suggest this a secret deal. You want your day to be special and beautiful.
Best of luck to you.
Posted 19 December 2008 - 12:04 PM
FI and I were legally married last month. It was a very special day! We both can't wait to say "I do" on the beach surrounded by ALL of our families and friends though
At first, I was hesitant because I didn't want people to make a big deal about the legal day since I wanted the wedding to be the main event. Now, I am excited to have two anniversaries -- more excuses to celebrate! I realized that both days are/will be very real to us, both no less significant than the other, and that's all that matters. Our legal day isn't a secret, so close friends and family know.
I don't understand why guests should feel deceived over a technicality. Sure, you're legally married but that doesn't make the vows you exhange and love for each other less real. They should be there to celebrate your committment to each other, which does not have to be confirmed by signing a piece of paper, IMO!
The marriage license is just a legal document for the government; the wedding is for the people who matter
I hope things work out for you!
Posted 19 December 2008 - 02:06 PM
Me and Chad were offically married November 21, 2008 and only told our parents. For me it was something that we decided on because there were issues of living together and not being married. For us it was the best decision---religion wise. But we didn't do anything special. We actually went to work that day..got off early pick up our marriage license and got it notarized. Believe it or not I stop the notary in the middle of it to call my mother so she could hear me finish my vows. Then we went to get a hamburger. To us we did what we felt was right for us but our actually ceremony is May 18. Of course I told two of my bestfriends, my mother and father; but my brother and other family have no idea and I don't feel like I am deceiving them because our ceremony will be in Jamaica...and its a vacation. Yes Nov. 21 is a special day that WE will remember but our ceremony and being there with our family is what makes a wedding a wedding to me. I hope I make sense to you and I hope that I was of some sort of help.
Posted 19 December 2008 - 02:38 PM
It really is no big deal!
Get him to add you on!
Posted 23 December 2008 - 02:55 PM
We were married 3 months before, but our ceremony was beautiful and completely full of emotion. It did not take away from that special moment at all and it was completely meaningful. IMO, we just took care of the legalities before hand- it's no different than getting your marriage license in advance and then having the ceremony later.
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