@Shanon09, you're welcome! Dinner took about an hour to get though all the courses. We had speeches set up for in-between each course which really moved things along.
Tipping was a tough one. I did a lot of research on BDW to see what other brides were doing and found it was really more of a personal approach. My rule of thumb was that if the individual providing you the service owned the company then they did not get a tip. If they worked for someone else than a tip was provided.
We didn't provide an entire ceremony script, however we filled out Alina's & Santiago's questionaire and included our vows and this:
Affirmation of Parents & Friends
Marriage is the promise of hope between two people who love each other, who honor each other as individuals, and who wish to unite their lives and share the future together. In this ceremony, you dedicate yourselves to the happiness and well-being of each other, in a union of mutual caring and responsibility.
Would the parents and siblings of the bride and groom please stand? â€¨This occasion is a special celebration for you, the parents who have brought these children into the world, and the families who have nurtured them into adulthood. Today you are witnessing another stage in the lives of your loved one. Your continuing support and encouragement will be needed as (insert names) unite in marriage. As they join their lives in marriage, they also bring you together in a new relationship, creating new bonds of trust and ties of affection.
Will you who have loved and nurtured these two, with the greatest love and wisdom you have, support this new couple and help in every way? Answer: Yes!
The affirmation of family and friends:
Now, in the spirit of joy and affirmation, I want to ask your families and friends a question:â€¨
Do you the families and friends of (insert names) give them your blessing and support, wishing them a wonderful life together as they marry? If so, please show them your support by saying "we willâ€.
This really got everyone involved in the ceremony and it was cool to hear everyone cheer "we will" together. We didn't tell our parents we were doing this and it totally caught them off-guard so the waterworks continued and they told us afterwards they really appreciated this part of the ceremony.