RSVP Experience

[MarieSam]

*sigh* we should all make a song about RSVP's and how wedding guests just don't seem to respect their significance.

 

Well we began sending out our DIY boarding pass STD's and initial "reply card" which we labored over for hours, days, weeks about late September. They have continued to go out sporadically as I gathered addresses of our roughly 150+ guests ~ HA intimate wedding my ass.

 

So about 100 STD's have been sent out and despite not listing any "return this card by _____" date and simply asking that they be returned "at your earliest convenience," the reply postcards have actually trickled in sporadically. A couple days ago my daughter racked up the guests count and we're up to about 70 people. ~ again this is supposed to be a wedding with only our closest family and friends. I guess we're "close" to a lot of people

 

But needless to say, I am unhappy because most of these reply cards have come from FI's side of the family. I've probably received about 3 or 4 of them from my people. My own freaking aunts and uncles who are staying in the villa with us haven't sent them back despite me telling them that I've got a system and am trying to keep organized. Yeah, doesn't matter to them EVEN THOUGH THERE's ALREADY A FREAKING STAMP ON IT!!!

 

My frustrations have been met with my Mom saying in her funny Filipino accent...."Filipino people don't believe in RSVPs MarieSam". *sigh* great so now its a cultural thing and I guess my people have little regard for the courtesy of an RSVP.

 

aye aye aye, it really shouldn't be this hard...

[mexicobride2009]

MarieSam - I LOVE your quote on your siggy!!! LOL

[brittbrodin]

Okay - I'm not going to lie...I used to be that person that never RSVP'd on time and sometimes forgot completely! Now that I've spent weeks making my invites, spent the $$, and thoroughly annoyed my FI (I don't know how many times I complained to him and he just said, "Babe, let's just pay someone to do them for us!" ...I promise to always put the RSVP in the mail as soon as I get it!!

[Chiquita]

We sent out 50 invites and maybe got 20-25 back? That was also after I got my MOH to hassle some people about sending them too.. grrrr. People are just inconsiderate that's all.

[MarieSam]

Quote:

Originally Posted by mexicobride2009 MarieSam - I LOVE your quote on your siggy!!! LOL

hehehehehe thanks It's what I say to FI when I don't feel like working out, which he responds to by rolling his eyes, lol.

[Duchess]

I was always kind of bad too about RSVPs, but now that its me, I really don't see what the big deal is! I am kind of kidding...Actually, it pisses me off that I wasted a stamp, but for me, I already know who is coming and if anyone else pops up, well that will be a shock. I sent out 90 and only got about 15 back, and thats even from people who are coming!

 

I even put a link on my website which I referenced on the invite to RSVP, and still havent gotten many! It is kind of rude. My mom mentioned that since we did a tear off postcard for the return, people couldnt put a check in the return envelope. That's mom, always looking out for me!!!

[Jen_S]

Sounds like we all have the same issue I swear moving forward I will rsvp right away. Today we got a reply but they did not put their name on it... Really how are we suppose to know who its from. All I do is laugh now!!!

[MissyR]

We didn't even do a formal RSVP. We told people the booking deadline and asked them to RSVP on our wedding wedsite. Of the 88 people invited 57 came - thankfully we had no last minute bookings - people were pretty good about using the online reply.

[ikupoo]

I emailed STD and had people RSVP on my website. Lot of the people haven't even been to the website yet. I'm assuming those people are the one's that's not going. Kinda bummer.

[ccarmany23]

I am soo glad that I found this post, this has been eating away at me the past few weeks. Our deadline was Dec. 1st and I still have about 35 invites that have not come back. Two of which are from part of the close families members if you can believe that- and I have a feeling they are actually dragging their feet because they might not be coming!! It is so inconsiderate... I have to admit getting married has given me such insight to the process and having such appreciation now to what all other brides have gone through!! I promise to not have a late RSVP to a wedding again ...