Bridal Shower Dilemma..Can't Find the Answer on Here
Posted 04 December 2008 - 02:00 PM
OK, so I was under the assumption that I could invite all friends to a bridal shower. I live in Kansas City, but my family is all in Minnesota. That means two bridal showers, and possibly a third in Nebraska. I thought I'd check on BDW first to make sure that I was doing it the "right" way. Well, from what I can find you're only supposed to be invite people that are invited to your wedding. We purposely wanted to have a very small wedding (we invited 30 people, and many live in other states). So that means if I have a Nebraska shower only two people besides myself would be invited. In Minnesota I'd invite 4 people and in Kansas City I'd invite 3 people. What do I do for invites? Isn't there some sort of exception to the rule when you only invite a very small number of people to your actual wedding?
I think that my friends, at least in KC would be sad if I didn't have a shower, I've had some friends mention it when we first got engaged (April 200. I don't care if people give us gifts, but I know that people want to be updated, etc.
What is your opinion?
Posted 04 December 2008 - 02:31 PM
Posted 04 December 2008 - 06:40 PM
Posted 04 December 2008 - 10:20 PM
Posted 04 December 2008 - 10:41 PM
I personally did not invite anyone to a shower that wasn't invited to the wedding. However we had quite a few people who could not attend and most of them I know would not be able to make it, but I wanted them to feel included.
I don't see anything wrong with both families offering to host a shower, provided they know about the wedding and your reasons for wanting to keep it small.
I had 2 showers in my hometown, one hosted by and aunt and the other by friends. I also had a shower in KC hosted by my MIL because none of my DH's side could make it.
Posted 05 December 2008 - 12:53 AM
Posted 05 December 2008 - 01:22 AM
Posted 05 December 2008 - 01:39 AM
Mostly because to begin with, I've never liked showers. I always thought they looked like gift-grabs and were boring.
But then my wedding came along... and people wanted to throw me showers. People who are invited, but they invited people who weren't invited.
It goes against what I think should be done, but we are in the same situation as you in that we only invited about 25 people total. We wanted a very small wedding. People in town who werne't invited, who wouldn't have been able to go even if they were, wanted to celebrate with us.
So - IDK. I guess it really depends on your relationship with the people who are on the guest list. As long as they are close/old friends people you know want to share this kind of experience with you and know that they are important to you, go for it. And acknolwedge how fabulous they are for coming. I really enjoyed seeing so many people from different times of my life come together. It was a great experience. And I fully intend on bringing them back together for a party of some kind afterward to share the wedding photos with them and celebrate with them
Posted 06 December 2008 - 02:23 AM
Keep in mind I am a Manitoban and we have 200 person showers and something called a Social where we are expected to buy a $15 ticket to a dance in gymnasium decorated with paper table clothes/streamers and buy your own drinks, buy raffle tickets to win prizes and pay to get people out of jail. So, weddings here feel very much like a cash grab and that is what I am trying to avoid by going away.
Posted 06 December 2008 - 02:34 AM
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