groomsman passed away - not sure what to do now...
Posted 03 December 2008 - 05:15 PM
My FI is going to wear a memory frame on is bout to remember is grandfather...maybe your FI could do this as well so that he will be by his side like he was suppose to be.
Again, so sorry for your loss.
Posted 03 December 2008 - 05:21 PM
Posted 03 December 2008 - 05:30 PM
Posted 03 December 2008 - 05:57 PM
Posted 03 December 2008 - 06:31 PM
I do like the idea Katyko suggested. If you and your FI decide you want the brother to step in then maybe he could wear a frame around his boutonniere in his memory.
It is your wedding day, and whatever you decide will be respected by everyone.
Posted 03 December 2008 - 07:41 PM
Posted 03 December 2008 - 08:45 PM
It's a very tough decision your both facing on whether or not to get a 'replacement' groomsman. Like most, I think leaving the space open is completely appropriate - and definitely okay, if that's something you and your FI is okay with. If you both decide you want to fill the spot, I think that's okay too.
Doing something to honor the friendship at your ceremony might be appropriate. I like Nanner431's idea of including special flowers in the bouquets a lot. I think it's a wonderful way to honor and include him in the ceremony... but in a subtle way - so that the ceremony doesn't shift its focus from a celebration to a memorial.
So sorry again to hear about your loss. You have our deepest sympathy and support.
Posted 04 December 2008 - 02:12 PM
Two years ago, my cousin(Don) was killed in a car accident two weeks before his little brothers (Brian) wedding.
At the ceremony, the bridal party was uneven, and Brian, and the remaining GM, all wore shoes with a capital "D" on the side (my cousin owes a skateboard shop, so they have them made). EVERYONE at the wedding knew Don, and knew the loss the family was dealing with, but...it was remarkable to me at the time, how the day really was a celebration...both for my cousins marriage, and for Don's life. It was beautiful.
During the Grooms speech, he did make reference to his brother a number of times, but it didn't detract from how excited he was for this day! During the slideshow, there was also a few pictures included of Don and Brian together.
I think added your own personal touches, things that remind you of your friends, are not only a way of honoring them - and keeping it low key, but for anyone at the wedding who knew them as well...they will recognize the effort you have made to include them, as planned, in your special day.
Good luck, and again, our condolences on your sad loss.
Posted 12 December 2008 - 11:26 PM
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