groomsman passed away - not sure what to do now...
Posted 03 December 2008 - 04:34 PM
My fi and I each have two attendants. In a tragic accident, one of his groomsmen, along with his wife, passed away last week. I have no idea what to do. People have started asking him what he's going to do, who he'll have stand up with him (which is making him more upset). I've told him that there's no rush, he can decide what he wants - either to ask someone else (there is a slim possibility that the groomsman's brother may fill in, which I think is totally fitting) or to leave the position open, in memorial. I don't know. My problem is that I don't know if a wedding should turn into a memorial (I hope I don't sound horrible saying this, I miss this man and his wife with all my heart, and our wedding and our lives will NOT be the same without them). I just sort of feel that this is supposed to be our day, and although we can remember them and pay tribute to them, I'm not sure I want an uneven amount (especially when its 2 on my side and 1 on his) of attendants.
Thoughts? Advice? I appreciate anything...
Posted 03 December 2008 - 04:41 PM
Posted 03 December 2008 - 04:47 PM
Posted 03 December 2008 - 04:51 PM
Again, I'm very sorry...
~ Jaime & Martin ~
"Rain or Swine! 2-0-0-9"
We had 24 people attend our wedding in Las Caletas, Mexico on May 24th, 2009!
We all stayed at The Marriott in P.V., and Honeymooned at The Royal Plantation in Ochos Rios, Jamaica!
Posted 03 December 2008 - 04:58 PM
I'm sorry for your loss - that's a very, very tough situation. It'll all work out!
Posted 03 December 2008 - 05:00 PM
Posted 03 December 2008 - 05:03 PM
So sorry to hear...how terrible.
Posted 03 December 2008 - 05:06 PM
Posted 03 December 2008 - 05:14 PM
Posted 03 December 2008 - 05:15 PM
I agree with leaving the space open in memory of him, but not mourning him. Perhaps acknowledging this absence in your speeches. But also remind yourselves and everyone that he is with you on your day and watching over your celebration.
You can be sensitive to the situation but it is a day for celebrating your and your new husbands life together.
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