We're doing our DW alone...is it appropriate to have a shower?

[futuremrsp]

Hey girls...I would appreciate any of your great insights!

 

My guy and I decided to tie the knot in Jamaica, just the two of us, in April 2009. We got our family and friends' blessings and are excited to go.

 

My mom still wants to throw me a little shower (she wants to call it a "sprinkle" lol), since she won't get to be part of everything. We will be having a 100 person reception back home in June.

 

-Is it rude to ask people to come to a shower since we are not including them in the ceremony?

 

-We bought a house in early 2008 and got most of our housewares already; some of our friends and family got us housewarming gifts. Are we double-dipping if I sign up for a registry?

 

-Should I specify on the invitation not to bring gifts and to just come and have fun? Or will some people insist? Can it be an option?

 

I would love to know how other brides dealt with this, or any ideas that may help!

 

Thanks,

 

Sarah

[Anna83]

Since you are not inviting anyone to your wedding, I think you guest list for the shower can include everyone on you reception list.

 

I would definately register. It is very helpful to the people who want to bring you a gift, otherwise, who knows what you'll get.

 

Maybe you could put on the invitation something like "gifts are not necessary, your company will be gift enough." Something like that so people won't feel obligated to bring a gift, but won't feel uncomfortable doing so.

 

If you are having a casual shower and a lot of people don't bring a gift, I would try to avoid opening them in front of everyone. If I went to a shower like that and chose not to bring a gift, I would feel uncomfortable having to sit and watch you open every single gift. I hope this makes sense! Good Luck!

[Jacqueline]

a "sprinkle", how cute is that. your mom is probably excited and still wants to throw you alil something. imo i think its totally fine!!! its a way for people who love you to celebrate your new lives together.

[sunstarsmoon]

I dont think it is a problem at all to have a shower. Let your mom do this for you I am sure she is looking forward to it. I am getting married the 2nd time around and my daughter got married in Las Vegas a few years back when she came home for a visit I gave her a shower and thats after she was already married lol

[Angela139]

I personally think it is even MORE appropriate to have a shower where you two are taking off on your own! It will give everyone (especially your Mom) a chance to celebrate this with you before it actually happens (ie. at the reception). The fact that you are having the reception makes it completely appropriate to have a shower. I think it's a great idea - and I'm sure it will mean a lot to your Mom

[tylersgirl]

That's really cute...a "sprinkle" haha. I think that it is totally appropriate to have a "sprinkle" as long as you invite all your "sprinkle" guests to your at home reception =), that's what I'm doing...hope this helps. good luck...

[Geralyn]

I think it is totally fine and everyone who you would want to celebrate with will be there...plus mom's love that kind of stuff! A "sprinkle" is the cutest thing i ever heard!

[SunBride]

I would say definitely do the shower, it will make your mom happy, but then put on the invitaitons "your presence is your gift". It will keep people from being upset that you are inviting them to a shower but not the wedding (i.e. thinking that the shower is a "gift grab) but those who really want to give a gift will do so anyways.