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The police academy may ruin my wedding plans....

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#1 MarieSam

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    Posted 02 December 2008 - 10:43 AM

    How long is the police academy? I know it depends on the particular city, but I've been hearing about 6 months . . .

    FI is in the final stage of the recruitment process for the Newport Beach Police Department, and if his background investigation goes well (which we are confident it will because he's clean as a whistle), it looks like the academy will be starting for him very soon. I'm hoping that it happens before the end of the December so that he will be done in time for our June 26th wedding.....but if not, I have no idea what we're going to do

    FI has successfully been working as a Realtor the past 4 years, but since the market has turned into crap and our nuptials are nearing, with my blessing he pursued a chance to enter the police academy. It's something he's secretly wanted to do, but never thought I'd go for. Newport PD is one of the highest paid departments in California and thankfully is a generally safe area, which is the only reason why I agreed to it. If all goes well, he will be easily making a 6-figure salary in the next 2 to 3 years.

    Things happened so fast, he studied and trained his butt off and from what I've heard it's not easy to get through NPD recruitment process. I am so happy and proud of him, I totally support him and this is a wonderful opportunity for us. But today I will find out if the academy will run into our wedding plans, if so, I don't know what we're gonna do....we've already got at least 10 people who have booked flights, accommodations, and we've hired most of our vendors. My mom suggested that FI just fly down for the weekend, but are you kidding me? How can I be happy being in RM for 2 weeks and only getting my hubby for 3 days....I feel like crying everytime I think about it. Am I being selfish?

    My heart is breaking just thinking of our plans falling apart because thus far everything has been such a smooth and wonderful process. Please keep your fingers crossed that things work out. FI will be talking to the investigator conducting his background investigation later today, and hopefully I'll know more about where we stand....

    #2 **TIFFANY**

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      Posted 02 December 2008 - 10:56 AM

      Wow that's a really hard situation but don't get too upset about it until you know for sure. Once you know for sure you'll be able to make more decisions about what you'll do. Right now just keep your fingers crossed that he gets the job and the academy will be over before the wedding. Maybe it will end right before you leave and it'll be a nice relief for him after all that hard work and now starting the next chapter of your life. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.


      #3 *Kerin28*

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        Posted 02 December 2008 - 10:58 AM

        Wow... that makes it so hard for you.. I hope everything works out for you guys. Good luck to your FI!

        #4 KatyKo

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          Posted 02 December 2008 - 11:19 AM

          I'm so sorry this situation is coming up, but I agree with tcram...don't worry about it yet, you will just end up making yourself sick. Let's hope he gets through recruitment and the academy has a heart and helps y'all work it out to where your wedding plans aren't harmed. Good luck with everything...keep us in the loop...you know we are here for you!

          #5 Banana11

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            Posted 02 December 2008 - 11:25 AM

            What an exciting opportunity! I'm going to agree with the others that you can't let the what ifs make you upset. I know that's easier said then done, especially with your wedding planned. Hang in there!

            #6 MarieSam

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              Posted 02 December 2008 - 06:41 PM

              Thanks gals for keeping me in check ~ all of you are right, I need to stop making myself sick and hope for the best. He is supposed to be meeting with the investigator tomorrow morning to fill out paper work and schedule his lie detector test (yikes!!), and hopefully we will know more at that time. Until then my fingers are permanently crossed and my heart is filled with prayer ~ thanks again for all your support it really means a lot!!!

              #7 starchild



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                Posted 02 December 2008 - 06:46 PM

                That is tough, but a happy husband makes for a happy marriage so let him pursue this and see what happens. The timing may work out just right, and if not, we will be here to help you scramble and figure it all out

                #8 Mrs. Martin

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                  Posted 03 December 2008 - 08:58 PM

                  Yikes, I'm sorry to hear you are stressing over that! But, congrats to him! This will be a posotive move for both of you because at least you both know you will always have a very steady income. Every department is different, like you said, because my hubby's academy was 8-9 months (LAPD). Good luck with everything and keep us posted.

                  By the way, we are almost neighbors now. Now that I got married, I moved to my hubby's house in Downey and Cerritos isn't too far away!

                  #9 JaimeLynne

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                    Posted 03 December 2008 - 09:02 PM

                    Any word yet

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                    #10 vgirl17

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                    Posted 03 December 2008 - 09:04 PM

                    Good Luck and I hope everything works out for you two.

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