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[dragonfly]

I'm late coming into this but I had to tell you how sorry I am for you. I also have miscarried. I have three beautiful children from my first marriage, never a problem getting pregnant and carrying to term (sometimes way past term). When Everton and I got pregnant, we were thrilled, I lost the baby early and was shocked, it was never something I even worried about, I felt such great loss, but tried again, and once again lost that baby, shock turned to depression, I had to have a d&c because I wouldn't stop bleeding, it was awful. One more time I get pregnant, my god I was determined this baby was going to be okay. Everything seemed to be going alright, and I was past the 3 month mark, so I started to relax. One morning I woke up to blood, rushed to the hospital, but to late, I also had to have the baby removed it was awful. I mourn these children, they were my baby's, I pictured what they looked like, I had breast milk (because I had breastfed my other babies so long, my milk came quickly). I swore I couldn't do this again it was to painful. Well surprise, surprise, I get pregnant once again, I cried I was so scared. this time everything went as it should. My and Everton's child was meant to be here, and he is the light of all of our lives, we can't get enough of him. That child will always be part of your life, and we can never know what is in store for us, but great things are.

Look down and you will see the end result of our road of saddness, and he is all happiness and love~
Kelly~

[LadyP]

Heidi First I want to say that Yes all things happen for a reason and the best is yet to come. I too have had a miscarriage, and I have had one die of SIDS, but now I have the best thing that has ever happened to me. I could not imagine my not having my son.

If I hadnt had the miscarriage I would not have had Amir. I would have stopped having children.

I dont know your spirituality but God does not give us anymore than we can handle. He was/is setting you up for something bigger and better. Trust me. You have a wonderful man and if that did not scare him off then he is there for the long hall. He loves you and you two not just you will be fine. I am a living witness. Trust and believe in love because the greatest thing that you can have is LOVE.

I am sorry that it is long
Meet Amir

[Heidi]

Thank you Catherine and Kelly; and everyone else! I'm sure like everyone else who has been unfortunate enough to experience this, we still have good days and REALLY bad days; but it's starting to get a little bit better. I don't cry every day anymore, and I try to take everything one day at a time. Plus, it helps that I"m focusing my energy on wedding planning. You are all so supportive & sweet!

What did I ever do before I came onto this forum?!?!?!

[dragonfly]

Amir is beautiful, what a face.
Kelly~

[RaydensMama]

Wow Heidi, I cant believe I just read this story now. What an emotional journey for the two of you. I couldnt even imagine going through all that. I am so glad that you have found such an amazing man, and it really was a very romantic engagement.

[boscobel]

Heidi,

I am reading this a little late - still rummaging around in all the different threads. I am so sorry for what you had to go thru, I was practically crying while I was reading your story. I am glad that you have such a supportive person in your life to help you to deal with such a tragic situation.

I must say though, that I think this board is full of the most caring and compassionate group of people that I have ever come across within one group. I don't have much time to spend on here, but each time, it is a joy to see how much everyone enjoys the happiness of others on here. The support given to, basically strangers, is just incredible.

Heidi, I can't say anything else, other then, I am really sorry that you (and everyone else that posted similar circumstances) had to go thru that at all.