Christmas compromise? (Warning: Long!)

[Hartyt509]

This is going to sound really harsh and I am bound to get a slating for it lol however I just have to say it lol

 

No-one is perfect but look at it this way if she is that fat and has that many health problems and won't do anything about it she won't be around for long so your problem will be solved lol yeah I know bad Harty but its a fact lol

[FutureMrsLewis]

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Originally Posted by Hartyt509 This is going to sound really harsh and I am bound to get a slating for it lol however I just have to say it lol No-one is perfect but look at it this way if she is that fat and has that many health problems and won't do anything about it she won't be around for long so your problem will be solved lol yeah I know bad Harty but its a fact lol

ROFLMAO FI said the same thing a while ago. I don't care what she looks like, I just wish she'd actually CARE about her health. And I said to FI a while ago, "Do you really think she'd be dumb enough to get pregnant?" and he's like "Hopefully, then she'll kick the bucket and I won't have to deal with her anymore". Horrible. lol

[Hartyt509]

I like your FI and totally agree lol I was trying to put it softly lol

[Ana]

If your FI is going to be part of your life he will have to understand that your family is a part of that life, much like your family has to understand that your FI is also a part of your life. If there is ever a time for ppl to put aside their differences and accept one another than this is the time. I would tell my FI that and ask him to be the bigger person in the situation.

 

As for the dogs/cats situation, if your sister and parents are 2 hrs away why not just go over there for the day? Leave early Christmas morning and come back the next morning. Would your cat be ok for 1 day? That might be a good compromise for your FI, and would make him less uncomfortable I'm sure.

[**~Jenn~**]

Well..Although Christmas is being spent at your sisters...Do you really want to let her be the cause of you not getting to at least see your Parents on that day??

If I were you..I would go..be the bigger person..Let her know that it doesn't matter what she does, your not backing down.

Be civil to her but if you have to spend most of the day staying out of each others way then so be it...Enjoy the holiday with the rest of your family.

I would never compromise my Christmas for anyone. Christmas Time is my favorite time of year and one of my Fav days...there is just something so special about it..Even more so now since I got engaged on Christmas morning last year!!

Anyway...Continue with your plans to go there. PLease don't let anyone ruin your plans...Go see your parents and your middle sister...They will be happy to see you. As for your older sister...Kill her with Kindness...It gets them everytime..I guarantee it!! :-)

 

Good luck!!

[teresayax]

I agree that you should go and just be civil towards your sister so that you can spend the Holidays with your mom and dad. As for the cats/dogs, is it possible for your cats to stay at your sister Lisa's place? That way they wouldn't be alone for long and you would still be able to bring them without fighting with your oldest sister. If that doesnt work, I would do what Ana suggested and make it a long day trip.

 

Good Luck!

[FutureMrsLewis]

I can't just go in the morning and come back that night because I don't own a car. I'm spoiled by metro transit and have never needed one, so I avoid that expense And I can't leave the cats with my middle sister because the baby is very attached to me and won't stay with anyone else.

 

I'm still going for Christmas, and FI doesn't mind the rest of my family, it's just my oldest sister. And I can't blame him, because I hate her too. She's done everything in her power to break us up and is pissed that it hasn't worked. I'm going, and we're spending the evening of Christmas Eve, Christmas day, and part of Boxing Day with my parents. My middle sister will be over too along with her husband, so I've got more people to concentrate on and talk to than just the old bag lol And I already told Mom that if she doesn't want to give the dogs to my other sister, that's fine because we're taking the cats and they're staying in our room, but I'm inside the room and open the door to leave and one of her dogs sneak in without me being able to catch it, then don't blame me when Shadow kills it, because she will. She's a HUGE cat, and she's very strong, and VERY dominant, and if one of her dogs sneak in and try to start shit, it will only take Shadow one smack to kill the dog, so if she cares about them at all, she won't let them stay in the house.

[shellb]

What about renting a car for the day or borrowing a friends car for a day or two? That way you have the option to leave if it gets nasty or uncomfortable for you or your FI. I have left my kitties for 2 and a half days before. Your only worry would be a snow storm, I know you guys get more snow than we do here in NS.

[FutureMrsLewis]

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Originally Posted by shellb What about renting a car for the day or borrowing a friends car for a day or two? That way you have the option to leave if it gets nasty or uncomfortable for you or your FI. I have left my kitties for 2 and a half days before. Your only worry would be a snow storm, I know you guys get more snow than we do here in NS.

We put a friend on notice so that if anything goes down we'll call her and she'll come pick us up And my Dad is going to put up a baby gate at the top of the stairs so the dogs can't get down, and we've got a chance to catch the cats if they escape Plus, my Dad is so mad with my sister and BIL that he's ready to eat them lol So needless to say, he's on my side