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#1 lizzie287

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    Posted 07 November 2008 - 07:20 PM

    So I'm not sure if this is where this should go, but oh welll ....

    I was engaged before, long story short we broke up (obviously) and now I'm across the country and infinitely happier with my new fiance. Anyway, my mom's friend was going to by my MOH in my first attempt at a wedding, which I did because I wanted to make my mom happy. She was ok, but she has way too much time on her hands and was constantly sending me links to tips to try and save money. Fine. But then when I started shopping around for ideas for bridesmaids dresses, she insisted that she didn't want to wear what everyone else had agreed upon and that she wanted to wear a different colour and choose her own dress. I agreed to a slightly different colour ("antique lilac" while the other girls were in lilac) but I still wanted her in the same dress. She even went as far as to refuse to go shopping with me when I was in town because "I'm not buying my dress yet". Well, I wasn't asking you too, I just wanted you to see what I'd like you to wear.

    Anyway, now that we're having a destination wedding, my fiance and I initially weren't going to bother even having friends at the wedding, but then he decided it would mean a lot to him to have his best friend there standing up with him. So my question here is, am I obligated to have the same person as my MOH because I asked her in the first engagement? Because I'd really rather have my best friend do it lol.

    #2 Jess

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      Posted 07 November 2008 - 07:29 PM

      I do not think you are obligated to have the same MOH - I would definitely have someone that you actually want by your side. That is a tough situation though as she is your mom's friend. Have you talked to your mom about it this time around? Hopefully she will understand.

      Good luck!

      #3 Shannond4156

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        Posted 07 November 2008 - 07:36 PM

        I don't think you are obligated at all. It's your wedding; pick who will be there for you! Good luck!

        #4 JHarwood2Be

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          Posted 07 November 2008 - 07:36 PM

          Heck no!!! You are not obligated to do anything. She sounds like a real piece of work.
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          #5 Maura


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          Posted 07 November 2008 - 07:56 PM

          the answer you need to hear is: hell no you are not obligated. choose whomever you want! dont pick somebody just cuz it'll make your mom happy.

          #6 ~*Kathy*~

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            Posted 07 November 2008 - 08:02 PM

            Just echoing what has already been said but yeah...hell no! Pick who YOU want to be up there, this day is about you and who you want to be there for you. Good luck with everything!

            #7 Hartyt509

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              Posted 07 November 2008 - 08:20 PM

              No don't have her have who you want lol Don't let your mum bully you into it either lol

              #8 Kat81

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                Posted 07 November 2008 - 08:38 PM

                The whole reason to have someone up there with you is to love and support you and be there for you in the most important moment of your life. Pick who you want to share it with...

                #9 chicklet

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                  Posted 07 November 2008 - 10:17 PM

                  Pick who you want it to be and who you think will make the whole process the easiest on you. Its your day!

                  #10 Dez921714

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                    Posted 08 November 2008 - 12:34 AM

                    You don't have to have her!! If your mom says anything, or if her friend gets offended, just explain that since you're with Mr. Right you don't want anything you were planning with Mr. Wrong...like your MOH!
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