In-laws

[BachataBride]

I really haven't involved my FMIL at all...this thread has me thinking maybe I should. Although, it's pretty difficult since she lives in another province. I did send her pics of my dress and my MOHs dress...so maybe that's enough. I don't really need her to do anything..I've handled everything pretty much myself. My mom & MOH both live out of province also so I've been communicating ideas & pictures with them through email, but I didn't really think to include FMIL with all these details. She just went through her daughters wedding, so it's not like she's never done it before!! I think I'll just let her sit back & relax & enjoy the show!!

But if you are getting the feeling that she wants to be involved give her a DIY project to handle, or ask her to keep an eye out for this or that when she is out.

[YoursTruly]

If you get the sense that your MIL is feeling that way, then she probably is. You can start inviting her with you to appointments or give her a smal task and an overview of your wedding planning.

 

As for me, I chose not to involve my MIL. Let's just say, its just best the less hands are in my planning. I wish you well.

[DallasAshli]

I live in Texas, FMIL lives in Maryland so I created a photo album on picasa (google's online photo alnum) and I upload all my pics, inspirations, etc into that. She gets an email when I update the album and sometimes she emails me to comment. It works great!

[adias.angel]

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Originally Posted by DallasAshli I live in Texas, FMIL lives in Maryland so I created a photo album on picasa (google's online photo alnum) and I upload all my pics, inspirations, etc into that. She gets an email when I update the album and sometimes she emails me to comment. It works great!

Glad to see someone else did the same thing.

[*Casey*]

My FMIL is so sweet and really wanted to be involved in as much stuff as she possibly could. My FI is an only child, so she's all over the wedding stuff. My mom, on the other hand, is a little bit of a control freak, which tends to be an issue when I invite FMIL to do things regarding the wedding. I invited her to go dress shopping with us and my mom had a fit! FMIL was crying when I was trying on dresses because she was so excited, so I'm really glad I included her in that. I'm also giving her control of picking out the grooms cake and of course the rehearsal dinner. We're still 6 months out, but i'm sure she'll be involved in a lot more than just that.

[chicklet]

Thanks ladies. You guys made me laugh and have given me some good suggestions.

I have a fitting for my dress on tues (she lives an hour and a half away) but I think I will invite her just so she knows I would like her involved.

She's got lots going on and I think she just needs to feel that we want her around.

[Erica053009]

My mom lives out of the country so I have involved my FMIL a little more then I normally would I invited her to go dress shopping and invitation shopping and some other things but I have to admit when it comes to going somewhere that money is being exchanged I don't bring her since she is not paying I don't like her saying it is too much to spend. Honestly in the future I am involving her less and less

[DallasAshli]

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Originally Posted by adias.angel Glad to see someone else did the same thing.

I guess I only skimmed the replies But I swear by this method - it keeps the FMIL involved since she cant go shopping with me. Plus, she can comment on ideas and give suggestions.

[Mel&B]

FMIL lives in the same city, but I haven't involved her at all. I think my mom is going to come visit me from CA a couple of months before my wedding and we are going to hang out with FMIL and get her more involved. We will show her my dress, have her help with some DIY, etc. I think she would really like to be more involved but contribute financially.

[Mel&B]

I meant to say she can't contribute financially, so I will try to involve her in other ways.