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#11 cantwait2718

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    Posted 29 October 2008 - 10:53 AM

    Sounds like u 2 have it all worked out. What a sweet guy u have. I am sure she will come around.

    #12 *Casey*

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      Posted 29 October 2008 - 11:19 AM

      I think that she'll eventually come around. It's all just heated up right now... and the more time goes by, the more time she'll have to cool off and get used to the idea. If they're that close, then there is NO WAY she would miss her son's wedding... no matter where it is! It's yalls day and it should be exactly what YALL want it to be... no one else! Also, if you give into her, then that just sets a precedent for her role in you and your FI's relationship forever. She's probably just on a power trip and is afraid she's loosing her little boy. She needs to know that you are going to be his wife and that yall come as a package deal now. I'm so sorry you are going through this right now... I really hope everything works out. Keep us updated, and chin up

      #13 Hartyt509

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        Posted 29 October 2008 - 05:55 PM

        Just ignore her lol You've made your decision and its tough. If she keeps going leaving messages like that ask FI to speak to her.

        God FMIL I'm sure you mention marriage and they get horns and start spouting green smoke lol

        I used to love mine - now i wouldn't pee on her if she was on fire.

        Take a stand or she'll make your life hell!! lol

        #14 hmj

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          Posted 29 October 2008 - 06:10 PM

          Originally Posted by Tiffiney01
          okay ladies we spoke about it last night I let him know that I stand behind whatever he decides to do and he made it clear that He is 100% sure that he doesnt want to switch destinations. He feels that if we decided to get married on the moon that's our choice and she should be there. His biggest concern is that I be there lol .....once that was settled she called me last night and left a message on my cell saying. We didnt consider her feelings, We never asked HER how did SHE feel about mexico ( that's hilarious to me ), we must be ashamed of her .She is laying it on thick... lol lol
          She never behaved like this before we have gotten along for the whole 8 years I've been with her son...She has never gotten in our business ( which is rare for a MIL) lol I think she is nervous about losing her son...but shit she lives downstairs lol lol lol
          WOW. Well, I say stick to your guns. If she's going to play that game, you can play it too. It's not fair to your or your FI. Glad your FI's main priority is YOU on the big day! :-) Hang in there...!!!!

          #15 Tiffiney01

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            Posted 28 December 2008 - 03:10 PM

            Originally Posted by Tiffiney01
            Okay here's the problem...my FI and I decided together to have our DW in PV we love mexico.... Now his mother is trying to make him feel guilty for having it in mexcio instead of jamaica ( being that that's where they are from) she is even going as far as saying she will not attend if it's not and get this we are inconviencing her. Now I know this is hurting him because they are very very close but he's saying that he's not changing his mind for anybody it's our day.
            On one hand I know if we go along with this and she doesnt attend he will be crushed and I wont have 100% of him on our wedding day.
            On the other hand if we switch it to jamaica I know i wouldnt be happy because this is not what we wanted and we are catering to her needs. Am I being selfish? Should I just say lets do it in jamaica so he can have his mom there? Should I just say it and stick to the plan? HELP!
            Some of you may remember my post about my MIL....Well it's official she is not attending our wedding she actually brought her ticket to Jamaica for 08-14 thru the 19th check out the dates . My FI said that he doesnt care but I know in my heart that he's hurting come on thats his mother and I cant take it I'm about to lose it ...for 8 years I've never had a problem with her we went shopping together, went to eat, went to the movies everything was great. I'm starting to think that some of the rumors are true that island parents mostly mothers are okay with their son's dating whoever but when it comes to marriage they prefer that he marries his own kind... I know this sounds up but I'm starting to believe it based on her behavior...what do you think?
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