Just admit I'm not important enough...
Posted 28 October 2008 - 01:43 PM
Hang in there adn in the end you'll know people's true colors.
PS...wow!! on the check in the RSVP card!
Posted 28 October 2008 - 01:56 PM
| Originally Posted by NJ_bride |
Rachel- that part about being released from bondage, LMAO! FH runs around saying how he is free from family obligation forever now! It is true, now OUR priorities change.
unfortunately, i think it's just in my nature to always be the bigger person, ya know? i'm such a sucker.
Posted 28 October 2008 - 02:38 PM
| Originally Posted by neen |
you know, i think its just hard getting so many "will not attend" RSVPs day after day, esp from close friends...we invited close to 200 people though and knew only about 20% would come, so i should have prepared myself better i guess!
| Originally Posted by BachataBride |
...and show them lots of fantastic, beautiful, fun pictures & don't stop talking about what a great time you had!! Really rub it in their faces!!!
Posted 28 October 2008 - 04:10 PM
Of my 3 best friends, one said she couldn't come from the very first phone call, which really hurt. All I wanted to hear was "I'd love to and I'll see what I can do". Since then she did say what I wanted to hear, but still will not be coming. It's more understandable now because her father passed away and she has had to make trips she could not afford. I will mss her, but I no longer feel like she's mean for not coming!
My other 2 friends had to have my FI badger them and offer to 'hire' them to paint our bathrooms so that he would cover their stays. And one of these girls, who is the closest to me, came over about 2 weeks ago and told me she was thinking of going to the Caribbean this month (ONE MONTH BEFORE OUR WEDDING!!!) I honestly think it would have taken me at least a year to get over that and even be able to look at her again... Luckily all of them have now booked, though off-site. And she said to me the other day that she probably wouldn't see us too much because it's her holiday and it cost her 2x as much as if she'd gone now.WTF
What it comes down to is that
1) They will feel SO sorry that they missed it. THEY will miss out and they WILL realize their mistakes
2) You will STILL have a great wedding without them. Honestly.
3) You never know who may book at the last minute. You may be pleasantly surprised.
4) Focus on the ones who are making the effort, not the jerks who aren't.
Posted 28 October 2008 - 05:33 PM
Posted 28 October 2008 - 05:53 PM
On top of that she went to a DW in DR this past july and it was for a girl she hardly knows.
Things like this really bring out peoples true colors...I'm very hurt by her actions and I can't bring myself to tell her which sucks even more.
So I can totally relate..but don't let it ruin one of the most important times in your life!
Posted 28 October 2008 - 09:06 PM
I'm sorry you are going through this, but at least you can learn who your true friends are.
Posted 29 October 2008 - 12:09 AM
Bottom line... it's okay to feel bad, but know that some of them, I am sure, really did try to make it... the others with the lame excuses (I have 3 other vacations planned), don't let it worry you... At the end of the day, the two people who matter will be there, and will have a lovely wedding!
Posted 29 October 2008 - 10:28 AM
Posted 28 December 2008 - 02:28 PM
| Originally Posted by neen |
I've gotten excuses written in the RSVP like "we're going on two other vacations this year" and "we just bought a house" or simply "we just can't swing it". Fine, you're not coming. But be honest...just tell me that while you're my friend and you wish me a wonderful wedding, its just not that important to you to be there and you'd rather go on a different vacation or spend the money you saved for Mexico on a new couch and coffee tables. Because that's the truth and I just want them to know that I know that.
Our best man and his wife pulled out of our DW because "they had just bought a house and they were going to another wedding in Vegas". Which they were not standing in!!!! My FI didn't really believe that until he saw the pics on Facebook confirming our friends were not in the wedding party for the Vegas DW. That was like a stab thru the heart.
Hope they had lots of fun, they just gambled our friendship away. I haven't spoken to them since, I'm afraid I'd say something I'd regret. But mind you, they haven't really tried to reach us either since they told us in June.
Or my mom, who was convinced she was going to get stuck in a blizzard and miss everything, she refused to look into travelling down south.
Can you get that blurb of yours made into a card? That would be so awesome to send back to people...
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