Has this happened to anyone else?

[Rhonda]

So, I sent my STD's out in July (10 months before my wedding) and will be sending my invites out soon. Now, I'm realizing that there a few people that I already sent STD's to that I might not have invited. One person, I actually haven't spoken to in months and has cut herself off from all of our friends.

Is it rude not to send an invitation to her now? The other few people, I'm not as close to anymore and I kind of feel it's a little weird to be inviting them now (but, I'll probably still send an invite). Has anyone had this happen? What did/are you going to do?

Help! I've been really stressing about this recently... like in the middle of the night...it's so weird.

[DanielleNDerek]

The person that has cut herself off I wouldnt send her an invite. Honestly if you dont really want the other people there than i wouldnt send them one either. We send STDs to a couple of people that we didnt really hang out with when got around to sending invites, we still sent them invites but they arent going. I figure what the heck if they decide they want to go maybe we'll be close again. dont stress over it, do whatever makes you happy. I think people will most likely forget that they didnt get a formal invite.

[Hartyt509]

If you aren't close to them don't send them - not worth giving yourself stress over

[samanthag]

I have to agree, you shouldn't send invites to people you really don't want to invite.I think this happens to many couples.

For instance, I sent a STD out to the receptionist at my chiropractors office! -Yes, I talk a lot!!!

Anyhow at the time it seemed reasonable. I saw her 3/week. She knew several of our friends. I had lunch with her a couple of times.

Well I haven't been to my chiropractor since April! I haven't seen or heard from her either. So I feel kind of weird sending the formal invite to her.

Plus, we really didn't "count" her as attending. I just figure she's probably not looking for it anyway?

[AnneW]

I would say that if you don't want to invite her, you shouldn't. However, if you feel like any sort of friendship in the future, you might want to. The likelihood of her attending seems pretty slim, but the gesture might be nice. So, if you're not worried about the friendship, don't feel obligated to invite her.

[Blkatz]

I am in the same situation-I sent out a STD to someone who I was very good friends with a while ago. She got married last May and invited me but since then we haven;t spoken. I am not planning on wasting an invite on her just so she can reply no.

[hunnyhun921]

That's why I am only sending out STD's with the wedding info and my wedding website where they can get more info. Whoever wants to joins us can feel free.

[Anna83]

I don't think you have to invite everyone that you've sent a STD. If you haven't talked to them in a long time, they probably forgot all about your wedding or don't care if they get invited.

[Kla.Kari]

Be careful with that. I am just playing devils advocate here, but sometimes people are really excited about things even though they don't say anything. It seems strange that a friend would cut themselves off, but if you don't know what they're going through don't assume it's because they want to end the friendship. (Speaking from personal experience here).

 

Besides, sending a STD is like a promise of an invitation. You never know, that STD may be sticking on their fridge or in a memory box waiting to be paired with the invitation to your fabulous event! But I digress; after all, it is YOUR day.

[1elephant]

personally, i'd send one. i'm learning that it's a small small world and you don't want to burn any bridges. what will it really cost you in the grand scheme of things?