Today's Oprah-Are you rude?
Posted 15 October 2008 - 07:12 PM
Obviously I work in a restuarant. There are a LOT of rude people, both customers and coworkers. And I'm sure at times I am one of them. lol Oh, and I totally think that leaving less than 15% is rude. That should be standard and anything above that should be for excellent service. In CT waiters don't have to be paid minimum wage so tips are how they make money for the night.
Posted 15 October 2008 - 07:32 PM
Posted 15 October 2008 - 07:54 PM
Don't get me wrong, I can be rude myself, but only when necessary. Today we where car shopping, I really wanted to tell the guy to leave us alone, we just want to look around, but I didn't. When Comcast decided to turn my cable off after I paid my bill even though they knew the payment was being drafted out of my account but still wouldn't turn me back on, I was quite rude and asked the supervisor to over ride the system. When he told me he couldn't, I had to ask him what he could do and what he supervised!
Sometimes, I think you can only get somewhere being rude, most people in this day and age think its ok to be rude all the time, which is uncalled for. Especially when someone is doing there best to accommodate you.
Posted 15 October 2008 - 08:37 PM
Are you chronically late? NO! and i can't stand people who are. the only time I'm late is when I know I'm meeting up with a chronically late person.
Have you ever stolen someone else's parking spot? never. In college, parking was such a PITA so there was very strick parking ettiquette.
Have you ever went in the express lane at the supermarket with more than the designated amount of items? Yes, but accidentally. or if i was too lazy too count, but assumed i was at 10.
Have you ever typed an email while on the phone? probably, but i don't have conversations on the phone while emailing. I usually just do both when I'm dealing with telemarketers.
Have you ever answered the phone while having a face-to-face conversation with someone else?
I think this one depends on the situation. If I will only be talking to someone a short while, i won't answer the phone. but, if i've been hanging out with someone all afternoon & the phone rings, I'll answer just to let the person calling know when i'll call them back.
I think it's rude when you are mid-conversation with someone & they take a phone call to just chat with someone else. especially if you are making an effort to spend time with a friend.
There might have been a question about texting while talking to someone else. With the popularity of iphones this is really starting to bug me. i find it insulting when someone is haivng a text conversation with someone else when you are trying to talk to them. briefly replying to a text is fine with me if it's important.
have you ever gossiped? Yes, probably too much.
can anyone remember more?
Posted 15 October 2008 - 08:45 PM
I think everyone needs to do a minimum wage job where you don't get treated with respect atleast once in their life to learn how to treat others. I've done fast food, worked at a marble slab & been a cashier. People can really treat you like you are an idiot who doesn't deserve respect. It bothers me when people assume someone working a register isn't intelligent.
I hated working retail. I was so bored most of the day. but occasionally someone would be so friendly to me & it would really perk up my day. not just fake, small talk friendly, but truely friendly. so i try to be extra nice to people working service jobs hoping it makes their hour a little nicer.
the hotel WC told me people treated her so bad, she was surprised by how nice mike & i were to her. she messed something up and was shocked we didn't yell at her. it was such a minor problem. she said people have thrown things at her before.
Posted 15 October 2008 - 08:53 PM
Ooh, and I think the RUDEST thing is if you answer the phone while we are at dinner together (or lunch or breakfast). It drives me insane. Unless you have kids and one of them calls you, there is no real reason to answer every call you get just to say hi to someone while you're out with me. My FI used to do this all the time until I put my foot down and told him how rude it is. I didn't go to dinner to sit there in silence while I watch you talk on the phone! You can call them back later.
Posted 15 October 2008 - 09:26 PM
I have an opinion on this because....what is rude to one person is not rude to another. That's why you can say 80% of people are rude, but you aren't one of them. I am all for good manners, but manners are different based on your gender, age, location, likes, dislikes, culture, etc, etc.
I had no idea asking for a different table was rude! Therefore, to me (before today) it was not rude.
I love the saying "common sense is not common".
Posted 15 October 2008 - 09:45 PM
we're normally great tippers and never ask for a different table.
i'm a teacher as well and get the rudest parents and children who all believe that they are entitled to anything they want, regardless of the effects on the children.
i hate when you say excuse me politely and the person doesn't move. then the person in the way gets mad and huffy that they have to move. on sunday, i was driving in a nearby city and there was a car w/ it's hazards on IN THE LANE waiting for someone. we honked. and waited. and honked. and waited. and couldn't go around b/c of traffic. the person didn't even acknowledge me until his buddy came back to the car and deliberately took his time getting his sweatshirt off and seatbelt on.
it's quite common to hear me say "i hate people".
Posted 15 October 2008 - 10:08 PM
It's interesting that you ladies bring up the service industry jobs and how poorly people are treated in these jobs. I worked for a retailer part time during high school and some of the people there were the worst.
There's a website I like to read from time to time called notalwaysright.com, it's true tales of rude and just plain stupid people and the wonderful people who live to tell the tales of stupidity and ignorance. Check it out if you're ever bored, you'll laugh, cry, and cringe. In fact, most of the time you'll probably pee your pants laughing.
Posted 15 October 2008 - 11:05 PM
As a teacher now, I find it incredibly rude when parents show up after school or at lunch to talk to you about their child without making an appointment. When the kids leave at 2:30 I need a break, not to mention the chance to mentally prepare for a meeting about your child. And I need a lunch hour like everyone else!
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