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Your relationship with your MIL/FIL

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#1 SAM

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    Posted 10 October 2008 - 12:23 PM

    What are your thoughts on your future in-laws? Do you like them? Hate them? Crazy? Loving? OMG what in the hell am I getting my-self into?

    I'll start. I LOVE my FMIL...she's great, very warm and fuzzy. I liked her the minute I met her! We go out all the time and go wine tasting together. She is beyond excitied about us getting married but keeps bugging us about a Grandbaby.

    MY FFIL passed away two years ago. We weren't very close...awkward more than anything. He was a wonderful man but we just didn't communicate alot.

    My Step-FMIL is also great! I'm not that close with her but our relationship continues to grow.

    #2 DallasAshli

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      Posted 10 October 2008 - 12:50 PM

      Good idea for a thread!

      I love my FILs. They are the perfect in-laws - supportive, loving, our biggest cheerleaders and you can tell them the truth!! Yesterday, they sent us pics of some wedding flutes they wanted to get us. They aren't really our style, so we politely declined and their response was "we're so glad you can be honest with us - we dont want to get you anything you dont want". Love that!

      They never have anything negative to say - about us, the wedding or about life. They are very religious, but different from ours, and they never push or even suggest we follow any of their beliefs/customs.

      I could go on and on, but instead I will just say that I am sooooo grateful for them!! We are even trying to get them to move from Maryland to Texas to be around us and our kids (when we have them).

      #3 Andi


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        Posted 10 October 2008 - 12:58 PM

        Oooh fun thread!

        I like my FIL's. They are like my second set of parents!

        My FMIL CANNOT wait for a grandbaby and we continue to tell her she has 2 already! (2 furry ones that is! our dogs ) Also because my FI is an only child and she never had a daughter I know she is so excited to finally have a daugther!

        My FFIL is very quiet and always has been but he too is very supportive of us and our future together. Overall I think that I am totally lucky in the future-in-law department!

        #4 boscobel

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          Posted 10 October 2008 - 01:09 PM

          wrong thread...

          #5 NJ_bride

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            Posted 10 October 2008 - 01:17 PM

            Wow, good thread. First off let me say both you ladies are very lucky. You never here people say that they love their inlaws! As for me a more complex situation.
            My FMIL and I were never close, she never worked in life, sat in recliner all day. She didn't take care of herself or her family or her home. She also caused major hostility between FBIL's fiance and me from day one. She was the type to always gossip about people. I work full time, take major pride in my house, love to cook and try to be healthy. I always tried with her but she wanted to be BS'd and that is just not me. She passed away in March. FH and her were never close so ends that story. FFIL and I always got along great, I respected him and he returned it, we joked a lot and could really talk. He is a difficult person cause he is from Italy and is totally old school in everything he does. But regardless him and I bonded. When FMIL got sick and went into hospice care he got mad a me for not quitting my new job and moving in with them like FBIL's fiance and all the kids did. Long story short our relationship has and never will be the same. I always thought I would be so close with my Inlaws just didn't work out and I am sad for that. Future siblings are a whole other thread, see my "wedding blues" thread for the whole story there.
            I wish I had just a little of what you guys have...

            #6 Jacilynda

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              Posted 10 October 2008 - 01:21 PM

              I LOVE my FIL... they really are a second set of parents. Especially since my parents are on the other side of the country and they are a few miles away.

              #7 KatyKo

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                Posted 10 October 2008 - 01:52 PM

                I love my FILs as well. Will's parents are still married and they love to ride bikes together, travel together and still spoil Will and his older brother. His Dad still plays soccer and is a jokester, always telling bad jokes and pretending that the new person at the family dinner is always expected to sing a song before dinner. Will's Mom is VERY sweet and definitely ADHD. She is a bit overwhelming sometimes, because she is going 100mph all the time, but if you every need ANYTHING she will be right there.

                I am happy to be joining such a great family, and I believe that Will feels the same about my family. My parents have been acting like teens again ever since my sister and I both moved out for college and I think sometimes they party later in the night than I do. They are a trip, getting tattoos together and just truly enjoying life.

                I can only hope that Will and I will be a happy couple like they are after 30 years of marriage :)

                #8 DanielleNDerek

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                  Posted 10 October 2008 - 02:00 PM

                  good thread...

                  fsil is how i met Derek so we are very close friends.

                  fmil I love and talk to all the time.

                  ffil is very nice but we dont talk as much as the others. it's sometimes awkward if we are alone but not in a negative way just we dont have much to talk about.

                  So i love all my fils but the one thing that sometimes bugs me about dereks fam is they are so much into each others business. they tell each other everything and they argue with each other. that being said im used to my family that hardly ever argues with each other (well my immediate family, my mom hates my dad's mom) and my immediate family also doesnt get so involved in each others business. Like example, when i wanted a 2nd dog all of d's family told him that we are crazy and than went through a long list of reasons not to get a second dog. And they kept telling us this reasons frequently until we finally got our 2nd dog that they love. Now my parents did tell us we are crazy but to do whatever we want. That wasnt a big deal thing but you get the idea.
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                  #9 *Lo*

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                    Posted 10 October 2008 - 02:09 PM

                    My FMIL is amazing! She is the sweetest person I have ever met, and she basically raised my FI by herself so I can see now why he is so sweet :) Her husband, my FI's stepdad is a great man, and he makes FMIL so happy so that is what is important. They are both so caring and kind. She is sooooo excited for her oldest son to get married it is ridiculous. We don't see them that often because they live in Calgary and we are in Toronto, but they have met my parents a few times and everyone gets a long great!

                    My FI has two brothers and they are great as well. One of them now has a girlfriend in Toronto and flys in almost every weekend (he works for an airline). So I see him a lot. He is the same age as my brother and they get along well too.

                    I guess I really couldn't ask for a better situation. Everyone is looking forward to the wedding, and are very supportive of whatever we decide!

                    #10 Celina

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                      Posted 10 October 2008 - 02:17 PM

                      I am blessed to have wonderful in-laws. FI is an only child so he doesn't have any siblings but has two best friends who are like my BIL's. I get along with them wonderfully. One of their wives and I get along fantastic, and the other one I don't have anything in common with. We get along, just don't have much in common except that we are both moms.

                      FMIL is great. Always upbeat and adores our kids. I sometimes wish she lived in the same state as us - but realize we probably get along so well because we don't. FI's bio dad passed 10 years ago and I was lucky to have met him. FMIL's hubby is wonderful too. He is so giving and caring and we all get along great. They are both great grandparents to the kids and I am so blessed to be a part of their family.

                      As for my FI - unfortunately he got the short end of the stick on this deal. My dad and step mom aren't bad, but they are religious and are VERY stiff. So I feel sorry for him. He got dissed on the in-laws and sister in law department.
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