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#421 hclibby1982

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    Posted 06 June 2013 - 09:01 AM

    When my FI first suggested a destination wedding, I said sure, thinking it would save us money.

     

    Although we're spending a lot less than we would if we got married at home in Boston, it's definitely not cheap! We didn't set a specific budget, just trying to keep things reasonable and it's looking like we'll be around $16K-$18K before the Honeymoon, which is another $5K. More than I had originally thought but we're spending 5 days in MX then doing a 12 day cruise so I know it'll all be worth it!

     

    I do wish other people understood that the wedding isn't free for us though, because I get the feeling some people (primarily my FI family) think they're subsidizing our wedding and they're not. We've paid for a few people's rooms to help them out and make sure they're there but other than my Mom paying for some of my dress no one but has paid for anything!!!



    #422 EVKnowsitall

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      Posted 09 June 2013 - 10:46 AM

      When my FI first suggested a destination wedding, I said sure, thinking it would save us money. Although we're spending a lot less than we would if we got married at home in Boston, it's definitely not cheap! We didn't set a specific budget, just trying to keep things reasonable and it's looking like we'll be around $16K-$18K before the Honeymoon, which is another $5K. More than I had originally thought but we're spending 5 days in MX then doing a 12 day cruise so I know it'll all be worth it! I do wish other people understood that the wedding isn't free for us though, because I get the feeling some people (primarily my FI family) think they're subsidizing our wedding and they're not. We've paid for a few people's rooms to help them out and make sure they're there but other than my Mom paying for some of my dress no one but has paid for anything!!!

      So true! People think you only pay for your room and that the wedding itself is free because it's an all inclusive. I'm like if that's the case everyone would do a DW. One of my guests flipped out bc we told Her we would not pay her day pass. He invited ER brother and mother- who I did not invite and they are over the guests included. I have to pay $200 for them as is and then she expects me to pay their wedding passes. We specifically told people we would not pay fr wedding passes. It's unfair that they get to save by staying somewhere cheaper and then we end up having to shell out so they can save. She told me she wasn't coming so Im ok with that because it saves me $200. Lol My mom paid for my dress but my fianc© and u ate paying for everything else- including our at home reception. I paid for my nieces flower girl dress, my nephews tux, my sisters room. Were already $20,000 in if I add up everything.
      Happily married to the love of my life- since July 5, 2013

      #423 Shara1984

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        Posted 09 June 2013 - 05:22 PM

        Originally Posted by Melissa14 

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        Originally Posted by Shara1984 

        I am recently engaged as of May 19th  It is my goal to only have the wedding cost 8k. I am nervous about this amount and I hope I can keep the cost down


        Oh to be recently engaged again :) Fun times!!

         

        My advice: To keep your wedding cost down keep your guest list down and look for resorts that offer a wedding package that is FREE when you book a certain number of rooms.

         

        Good luck and happy planning!!! Enjoy every second.

        Thanks...I am currently reworking my guest list.



        #424 Shara1984

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          Posted 09 June 2013 - 05:22 PM

          Originally Posted by Peach 

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          Originally Posted by Shara1984 

          I am recently engaged as of May 19th  It is my goal to only have the wedding cost 8k. I am nervous about this amount and I hope I can keep the cost down

          It is totally possible.

          Congrats!

          Thanks! I am so going to try



          #425 Shara1984

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            Posted 09 June 2013 - 05:23 PM

            Originally Posted by itsjuliez 

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            Originally Posted by Shara1984 

            I am recently engaged as of May 19th  It is my goal to only have the wedding cost 8k. I am nervous about this amount and I hope I can keep the cost down


            BTW- Congratulations on your recent engagement! It's so exciting! :)

            Thank you!



            #426 hclibby1982

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              Posted 10 June 2013 - 09:52 AM

              Originally Posted by EVKnowsitall 


              So true! People think you only pay for your room and that the wedding itself is free because it's an all inclusive. I'm like if that's the case everyone would do a DW. One of my guests flipped out bc we told
              Her we would not pay her day pass. He invited ER brother and mother- who I did not invite and they are over the guests included. I have to pay $200 for them as is and then she expects me to pay their wedding passes. We specifically told people we would not pay fr wedding passes. It's unfair that they get to save by staying somewhere cheaper and then we end up having to shell out so they can save. She told me she wasn't coming so Im ok with that because it saves me $200. Lol

              My mom paid for my dress but my fianc© and u ate paying for everything else- including our at home reception. I paid for my nieces flower girl dress, my nephews tux, my sisters room. Were already $20,000 in if I add up everything.

              Isn't it crazy how quickly things add up!  People also don't get that with my package I get 40 people anything above and I'm paying by the plate like you do here (i.e I pay for dinner, cocktail hour,  open bar, etc). I can't just bring 100 people and pay the same price, that wouldn't make the resort any money and they aren't stupid! 

               

              I wouldn't pay for their day pass either! They could've stayed at your resort, they just chose not to. I'm only providing information on our resort to discourage people from staying anywhere else but if they do the pass for the wedding day is on them.



              #427 EVKnowsitall

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                Posted 18 June 2013 - 11:19 AM

                So now that my wedding is 17 days away, I have a more accurate depiction of how much we have spent. It still isn't entirely correct but it's a pretty decent "big picture" and holy hell. LOL

                 

                $5,000- Resort Package for 24 guests- Cocktail hour, open bar, buffet dinner, minimal decor elements

                $3,190- wedding extras- guests over the 24 included, centerpieces, chinese lanterns, outside vendor fees, corsages for moms, bridesmaids tiny ass crap bouquet (they charged $10 a rose!)

                $1,300- Church ceremony in DR plus pre cana classes and mailing over necessary paperwork

                $55- NYS marriage license and ceremony

                $1000- Flights including RT airport transfers

                $3,200- Bride and Grooms Room- suite

                $350- Flower girl and ring bearer attire (I paid bc they are my niece and nephew)

                $2,800- Photography full coverage including trash the dress session

                $570- room for photographer as an outside vendor so we do not pay the $1,200 resort outside vendor fee

                $1,000- full video coverage

                $400- Save The Dates and Invitations

                $330- brides wedding shoes and flip flops and grooms shoes ($2200 my dress- but mom bought it so sweet gift! His mom also bought his $900 Custom made suit)

                $1200 DJ, LED Dance Floor

                $200- 2 12 passenger vans rented to take guests to the church from the hotel

                $99 E-Session photo shoot

                 

                Destination Total: $20,694

                 

                AT HOME RECEPTION

                $5,700- open bar, cocktail hour, carving station, salad, pasta station only- not full sit down for 100 guests

                $3,200 DJ and percussionist for AHR (This was not intentional lol this was for when we booked our DJ for a stateside wedding, they would not refund the money. Otherwise I would have used an ipod at my AHR because we have a sound system included.)

                $225 invitations to AHR

                $0- Photography for AHR- a gift from my Godparents. 

                $250- Kissing bells and souvenir photo books for 100 guests at AHR

                $1000 misc. expenses including postage and various decor items that I most likely am not even using. Ridiculous. And Bridal Party Gifts

                $? Decor for AHR (just went in yesterday)

                $300 Candy bar for AHR

                 

                 

                AHR total: $10,675

                 

                Grand Total:  $31,369 

                FMeverlovingLIFE

                 

                I can't believe we have spent that much. I took a second job to pay for it all. No loans, no credit card purchases. I'm kind of proud, but I'm kind of pissed for spending so much. 


                Happily married to the love of my life- since July 5, 2013

                #428 DinaQtobe

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                Posted 18 June 2013 - 05:04 PM

                Our budget is for approximately 16-17,000.  BUT we have already saved in a few areas and hope that it will be much less.  This budget also includes the cost of our vacation and our honeymoon.  Overall we budgeted 10,000 for our actual "wedding" costs, and then 7,000 for the trip and honeymoon.

                 

                Resort Package     3500

                Additional Flowers   210

                Photographer         1000

                Rings                      1500

                Bride Attire             1000

                Groom Attire            300

                Favours                   500

                Gifts                         375

                Invitations                300

                Other/Misc             1000

                Resort for wedding week  3000

                Honeymoon Week            4000

                 

                 

                We added the "Other" category for any last minute things that pop up - for example we needed new luggage as ours was falling apart - but it was more to pad our budget if we went over in other areas.  We made our budget before doing research into the cost for certain things, and we have saved in some areas already.

                So far we have come in way under budget on our Honeymoon week, invitations, and favours.  My sister is going to take some wedding photos and we will go with the resort photographer included in our package, which will save us money also.  I think we will come in under budget for sure!  I am hoping about 13,000.



                #429 Backy

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                Posted 18 June 2013 - 06:07 PM

                i don't even want to think how much it is costing me anymore...



                #430 pzl101

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                  Posted 20 June 2013 - 07:56 AM

                  I'm so glad I found this site. It gives me a better idea of how much a destination wedding would cost. May be cheaper than NYC but still it can add up. 




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