Posted 10 October 2008 - 02:47 PM
You are paying for it anyway so tell him exactly how you feel you have nothing to lose and all to gain
Posted 10 October 2008 - 03:22 PM
I think you and your FI need to sit down and weight out the pros and cons. If you both want to go ahead with your plans, then do it. Don't let others come in between you and your FI on your day.
I agree Amarillis too! You need to have a real heart to heart with your dad. Also talk to him about your brother and that is your wedding.
I second it...no bridal party. It's perfectly fine. If your MOH and his BM can't but their drama behind then screw them. I'm sure you FSIL and BFF will understand, they can still come if they want but less worries overall. My MOH can't make it so I just said not wedding party...less worries...less drama.
Posted 05 November 2008 - 04:08 PM
Posted 05 November 2008 - 04:52 PM
Posted 06 November 2008 - 07:16 PM
With the stress of not having to come up with $15,000 in 2 months, FH decided to pick his father as a best man, he is happy with it I guess, still no bachelor party, no support, nothing. My MOH (FH's sister) still doesn't care but at this point I'm over it, she is a MOH in title only and I don't see us continuing a friendship after this. Shouldn't be hard cause FH wants nothing to do with her either. My brother has booked to come stay at another resort with his girlfriend, all i have to say is whatever. As FH said let's just hope he doesn't pick our wedding to make his comeback. And to answer the question, yes he has a big drinking problem!
FH's brother and his "fiancee" are still not coming, and all I have to say is thank god because they would try to ruin it! The same people that gave us hell about not postponing and all are planning their own wedding, wait by my calandar it hasn't been a year so WTF!!! Hypocrites!
My father and FH still have not talked and probably never will, oh well. FH and I have had a peaceful 2 months since we decide to just handle our own families. He goes when he wants to visit his, i do the same. We leave each other out of it and don't make the other one go. I'm very happy with this agreement.
I am truly looking forward to our wedding. It is not at all the way we thought it would be but that's life. I am marrying the person I love in the place I want so all is good. I know too that after December 5th i will breath a huge sigh of relief that FH and I can finally start our life together!
Posted 06 November 2008 - 08:39 PM
I didn't have the same kind of drama, but did have my fair share. There were numerous occasions when I wanted to cancel the whole damn thing.
If you don't mind me asking, why will the wedding cost so much? Are you paying for your guests?
I think you need to sit down and have a heart to heart with the bridal party. Ask them point blank if they want to opt out. It might be a little underhanded, but they might start being nice to you once they realize they are being a$$holes about the situation. If they do all opt out, it's fine to not have a BP.
Bottom line is that Couples is amazing and relaxing and once you are there it will be wonderful. I was sad the way some things went down and that some important people weren't there, but I didn't let it effect my trip.
Be sure to book a massage and enjoy!
Posted 06 November 2008 - 08:42 PM
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