mom,stepmom,fmil & the other stepmom= ATTIRE?

[samanthag]

So just a random thought & most likely a dumb question. I apologize in advance!

 

I found my wedding dress and bridesmaids dresses and now I'm looking into my mom's attire which has lead me to even more questions/decisions...

My parents are divorced and my dad has remarried.

My FI parents are divorced and his dad remarried.

So we both have stepmoms.

First off, do our moms wear a certain color to distinguish them as 'mother of the bride' & 'mother of the groom'?

And secondly, if so, would our stepmoms be involved in this as well? -So that they all wear the same color

 

This situation never occurred to me until my stepmom asked me what "color" of dress should she be looking for.

 

Obviously this is my first wedding and I don't have many girlfriends who are married to run this by.

But I have YOU GIRLS!!!!!!

Big hug for your help!!

[sstotz]

good question!! I was actually just wondering about that for my FI step mom and real mom.. what is the norm?!?

[Hartyt509]

Why don't they just wear what they want as long as it isn't the same as the BMs? I mean everyone knows who they are anyway so why give yourself more grief!

 

I wouldn't but there again i am lazy and have said don't care what you wear as long as its not pink lol

[foxytv]

We didn't even worry about this. I told them to wear whatever they wanted, but once my Mom told me she had gotten her dress, I told MIL what color it was and not to wear the same color.

 

You could do the same thing - with all the Mom's and Step-Moms. That was easiest for us.

[Anna83]

You should just let them pick what they want to wear. Typically, the bride's mother chooses her dress first, than the groom's mother chooses a dress in a different color. You could let your mom choose, then his, then your stepmom, then his. That way they will all be wearing different colors.

[ErinB]

I don't know that color really matters. As Anna said, typically the Bride's mom chooses first. It would be nice to let each of them know so they don't end up wearing the same thing, though the odds of this happening are slim.

 

You might want to assign them a color or give each an option. I asked all of our guests to wear something in a shade of blue or sand/champagne, to follow an ocean pallet. Of couse my stepmom wore a black and red dress, but whatever....LOL

[sunsetbride1]

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Originally Posted by foxytv We didn't even worry about this. I told them to wear whatever they wanted, but once my Mom told me she had gotten her dress, I told MIL what color it was and not to wear the same color. You could do the same thing - with all the Mom's and Step-Moms. That was easiest for us.

I completely agree! My StepMother and my future MIL have eachothers phone numbers and email addresses. I told them that they could coordinate with eachother and wear whatever they feel comfortable in...

Us brides have enough to worry about without having to dictate what all of our collective mothers wear!!!

That being said, if you have a specific color scheme in mind for family, bridal party etc... then let them know that.

[samanthag]

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Originally Posted by ErinB I don't know that color really matters. As Anna said, typically the Bride's mom chooses first. It would be nice to let each of them know so they don't end up wearing the same thing, though the odds of this happening are slim. You might want to assign them a color or give each an option. I asked all of our guests to wear something in a shade of blue or sand/champagne, to follow an ocean pallet. Of couse my stepmom wore a black and red dress, but whatever....LOL

I'm afraid my stepmom will do the same thing! And then of course my mom is going to try and "out-do" all of them!!!!

Oh well, You girls are all right & I have lots of other things to worry about!
Besides they are the ones wearing these things, not me!!!!

[cougs]

other than not wanting my mom's dress color to totally clash with the wedding colors, i could care less what she wears. she'll probably end up wearing a beige/tan color. if FMIL wears the same color i honestly don't think either of them (or anyone else) would be bothered by it. i don't know that you can be as picky at beach wedding as you can be elsewhere, since most people only like to wear light colors outdoors in the heat ... so that really narrows it down.

 

i say "most" people, since our good friend harty is wearing a black wedding dress, and her FI is wearing a kilt. total awesomeness, but can you say sweaty? LOL

[Hartyt509]

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Originally Posted by mummergirl i say "most" people, since our good friend harty is wearing a black wedding dress, and her FI is wearing a kilt. total awesomeness, but can you say sweaty? LOL

LMAO its my way of losing weight fast!! lmao My dress is reasonably thin for satin anyway lol so i'll be fine but FI is gonna melt and have kilt rub i've told him no vaseline at the reception lmao I may need to explain that to some who aren't sure about kilts lmfao