I wasn't prepared to update this thread when I first saw your reply, cuz I wasn't ready to share yet. But here's what happened over the last few weeks.
We went the Monday before Thanksgiving to our old RE and decided that we didn't like that office. A combination of the way they made us feel and messing up our appointments all the time. We had my husbands sperm analyzed and the results showed that there could be issues there as well, but inconclusive. All of his numbers were borderline ok, which means that they can be better on other days and worse on other days. He also told us that our chances of conceiving on our own were very slim and we should seriously consider IVF. Our chances would go up to about 60% with IVF. Those numbers make me want to jump at the chance, but IVF is so emotional, I don't think I could deal with that right now.
After we decided we really didn't like that office, I made an appointment with a different doctor and we switched. I went the Wednesday before Thanksgiving to her and I love everyone in her office! The only bad thing is the location isn't great, so I am at least 2 hours late to work whenever I have a morning appointment. Oh well though, it'll be worth it to be with a doctor who is interested in us. She also had most of the same things to say, IVF is our best chance, but she would support us going back to pills to stimulate ovulation. Oh and she also diagnosed me with PCOS, endo and said I have a very large polyp that might be an issue. How these things were all missed before this, I have no idea. I left that appointment in tears b/c I couldn't believe that it was getting WORSE for us.
Then 2 days later, Friday the day after Thanksgiving, I got a BFP! So while I was hearing all of this horrible news, I was actually pregnant the entire time! I had symptoms immediately, but since I already experienced a loss, I knew better then to get too excited. We started blood tests every other day and the initial test was great, the next showed that there might be problems and the next confirmed that this pregnancy wasn't going to last. I am not a home waiting to miscarry.
I can't believe this is happening again, but to have all of those things happen to get the BFP and end like this, seems like a cruel/sick joke. Getting pregnant on our own after well over a year trying and doing fertility drugs; they told me that I O'd on the side with no tube and the tube on the opposite side reached over and grabbed the egg ("medical miracle"); oh and yeah, I got this horrible news yesterday ON my 32nd birthday. All of those things lined up, I was so thinking that this was going to work out b/c how can it not? But here I am.
Originally Posted by Simistar
Wow, sorry for some reason I wasn't getting the updates emailed to me so just saw this!
I can't believe how hard it can be either (not for us (yet!)...for the MANY couples I've heard from who have had so much difficulty conceiving...)
We spend much of our lives trying to NOT get pregnant and then bam, we want to and I think our bodies get us back or something, lol:-)
How did you appt go...? Any other glimmer of hope offered...?
We're in the midst of third time trying...
A couple weeks ago when AF came though, it was a BIG one..as in, a tidal wave...at work...it wasn't pretty...let's just say it was a VERY good thing I was wearing black pants that day:-) Yikes.
So, not sure what went on there...
We're not doing anything other than tracking my ovulation and timed intercourse...
I'm thinking we'll wait til the six-month mark of trying and then look into other options...I'm over 35 so after 6 months of unsuccessful trying, that's when they refer you to a specialist (at least where I live:-))
As for whether my cycles are consistent...no way! I don't think they ever have been:-)
I'm on day 20 right now and I still haven't ovulated, though according to the FM I'm at "high" fertility, so it's coming I guess:-)
I'll tell ya though...peeing on a stick get's pretty frickin' old, pretty frickin' fast:-)
Hope you're doing well?;-)