Any TTCer's out there?

[Kat81]

We just started TTC a month ago. I haven't charted or done anything proactive other than the obvious. My DH is out of town for two weeks a month though so it will be difficult. I already have gone through the emotion of thinking I was prego then having my dreaded period. What a let down. One of my BF has been trying for four months and she is charting and having he DH sprout his seed at a certain time then elevating her hips then making him hydrate and do it again 45 min later. lol But she called me crying yesterday that she is not pregnant. I read several articles stating that the harder you emotionally long for a baby the harder it is to concieve because you stress your body into thinking you are pregnant then it's not at it's prime to get pregnant, or something like that. Anyway, great thread Calia. I haven't told anyone that we are TTC because I don't want the stress of having to tell them I'm not pregnant. So, I guess we will see how it goes.

[foxytv]

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Originally Posted by TammyB I've been TTC for so long that I gave up. Well until we find out whats going on with DH's job (IE if he gets hired on with better insurance) We are at the point to either do IVF or Adoption. I'm tired of TTC, POAS and seeing BFN's. Emotionally I couldn't take it anymore so as sad as it may sound I gave up and I'm focusing on other stuff right now to keep my mind off it. Good luck to you and everyone else TTC.

Maybe now that your not "trying" you will be surprised with a BFP one of these days, lol.

On another note - anyone who uses Ovulation Calendar and Ovulation Chart - FertilityFriend.com - is it worth paying for the VIP membership? I am taking the courses online and they are very helpful - and the charts looks great - bt it seems that it's just as easy to chart yourself, or on one of the free sites - although I do really like all that FF has to offer...

[Kat81]

What exactly is charting?? I mean other than when you start and stop your period. What else do you chart?

[DLyteful]

WOW,thank you so much for starting this thread. You ladies sharing your experiences and information is truly helpful. My honey and I are not TTC yet, however I have a feeling when we do we are going to need some help. (I'm not on BC and havent NOT been trying, so...). Also, I dont have my cycle regulary. When ever I would tell my GYN their solution was to put me on BC. That was fine when I was younger, but a couple of years ago I had a very bad experience with 1 and I have not been taking any for about 3 years. I do need to start doing research on my own and the information you girls have here is so so so good. We talked of starting to TTC in Jan next year .I havent told anyone this, our plan or anything, bc if we have problems I really dont want my family to know.... I dont know why I feel like this but its nice to share my fears and experience with others who understand.

[Banana11]

Great thread! Thanks for sharing all of this awesome information!

 

We've been discussing when to TTC. It's such a major decision! The sensible part of me says wait a little longer until FI can move up the ranks a little more in his career. The old biological clock and my heart tell me to start trying soon! We are both 31 years old and have been together for 13 years. I've imagined having his child for several years and now that the time is so close it's hard to put it off! We've talked about TTC a few months before our wedding but who knows what will happen. We will for sure keep it to ourselves once we decide to start. One of my good friends told all of us they were trying and was constantly answering questions about being pregnant or not. It got really annoying for them. Good luck to all of you!!! I wish you nothing but fun TTCing and bambinos in your bellies!!!

[foxytv]

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Originally Posted by Kat81 What exactly is charting?? I mean other than when you start and stop your period. What else do you chart?

Charting helps you know when you are most fertile and when you will ovulate, so that if you are TTC, you have a better chance of conceiving.

Here is a calendar that helps you figure it out.

Ovulation Calendar - Free to Use

I'm just beginning to learn more about this, but if you join Ovulation Calendar and Ovulation Chart - FertilityFriend.com, they will send you daily "course" that teach you about how to use your body to know the best times to conceive. It's really pretty simple.

I'm only using CF right now to gauge the best times to concieve, but I'm going to get a BBT as well, and hopefully that will also help.

[Birdie07]

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Originally Posted by Kat81 We just started TTC a month ago. I haven't charted or done anything proactive other than the obvious. My DH is out of town for two weeks a month though so it will be difficult. I already have gone through the emotion of thinking I was prego then having my dreaded period. What a let down. One of my BF has been trying for four months and she is charting and having he DH sprout his seed at a certain time then elevating her hips then making him hydrate and do it again 45 min later. lol But she called me crying yesterday that she is not pregnant. I read several articles stating that the harder you emotionally long for a baby the harder it is to concieve because you stress your body into thinking you are pregnant then it's not at it's prime to get pregnant, or something like that. Anyway, great thread Calia. I haven't told anyone that we are TTC because I don't want the stress of having to tell them I'm not pregnant. So, I guess we will see how it goes.

I go through that emotion and it sucks. I cry everytime. I do try not to stress and thats why I do fertility yoga. It helps me destress. I also make sure we're not BDing just when I ovulate. It makes sex seem like a chore. And thats not good either. I also don't tell alot of ppl. I have told my bosses b/c it seemed right. And they are so helpful.

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Originally Posted by foxytv Maybe now that your not "trying" you will be surprised with a BFP one of these days, lol. On another note - anyone who uses Ovulation Calendar and Ovulation Chart - FertilityFriend.com - is it worth paying for the VIP membership? I am taking the courses online and they are very helpful - and the charts looks great - bt it seems that it's just as easy to chart yourself, or on one of the free sites - although I do really like all that FF has to offer...

I use FF. I don't pay. I used the free I think 30 or 90 period. However I know other people who use it and the perks weren't in it. I have a chart in a notebook I use to keep track. I write notes in it. Like it was spotting but almost light. Things I can't write in FF. Then I use FF to get my crosshairs on when I'm ovulating. The free one is fine.

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Originally Posted by Kat81 What exactly is charting?? I mean other than when you start and stop your period. What else do you chart?

You take your temperature everyday at the same time (or close to). I take mine everday at 6 am weekends too. I go back to sleep after. You have to have at least 3 hours of sleep before taking it. You can't get up and go potty then take your temp. It's the first thing you do. It helps tell you when you're ovulating. Your temp will drop right before you ovulate and then spike up. That way you know when to BD. You also chart what your Cervical Fluid is. Egg white cervical fluid is your most fertile to help the spermies . You also chart when you have sex. It sounds hard but its really easy once you get in the hang of it. You can also chart to help you not get pregnant. By not having sex in your most fertile times.

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Originally Posted by DLyteful WOW,thank you so much for starting this thread. You ladies sharing your experiences and information is truly helpful. My honey and I are not TTC yet, however I have a feeling when we do we are going to need some help. (I'm not on BC and havent NOT been trying, so...). Also, I dont have my cycle regulary. When ever I would tell my GYN their solution was to put me on BC. That was fine when I was younger, but a couple of years ago I had a very bad experience with 1 and I have not been taking any for about 3 years. I do need to start doing research on my own and the information you girls have here is so so so good. We talked of starting to TTC in Jan next year .I havent told anyone this, our plan or anything, bc if we have problems I really dont want my family to know.... I dont know why I feel like this but its nice to share my fears and experience with others who understand.

Thats what my old doctor told me too. However I don't want to use medicine and pills and I don't like the side effects. So BC is not an option. If you read TCOYF it says irregular periods and not necassarily bad and not that uncommon as some doctors make you think. You should read that book.

I also don't tell my family. And when I do get preggo I don't tell anyone b/c I don't want to share the bad news when it happens too. Like when I miscarry. It's much easier for just me and my DH.

[Kat81]

Hmm interesting....I guess I will check out Fertiltyfriend. Can't hurt right? I am going to say a prayer every night for all of you TTC.

[Jenn]

We aren't TTC, but we aren't trying not to either. I went off my BCP 2 cycles ago. The first month was REALLY hard... my hormones were insane, and it took 6 weeks to get a period - of course I was reading sites that said it could be up to 6 months if you've been on BCP for a long time, so I was going a little crazy. My second cycle seems to have really regulated though, and was right on track. I'm not temping or charting, so no clue if I ovulated. I'm on PNV (aka a good multi-vite), and I quit smoking.

 

I gotta say, being off BCP has been interesting (I've been on for 13 years pretty much straight through). First month my hormones were out of control. Now some of this may have been quitting smoking too, but I seriously was insane. That's definitely leveled out (thank g-d!). I've noticed my skin has been really bad though off of BCP. Like - I haven't had breakouts like this since I was a teenager! Its crazy. Anyone else noticed this?

[Kat81]

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Originally Posted by Jenn We aren't TTC, but we aren't trying not to either. I went off my BCP 2 cycles ago. The first month was REALLY hard... my hormones were insane, and it took 6 weeks to get a period - of course I was reading sites that said it could be up to 6 months if you've been on BCP for a long time, so I was going a little crazy. My second cycle seems to have really regulated though, and was right on track. I'm not temping or charting, so no clue if I ovulated. I'm on PNV (aka a good multi-vite), and I quit smoking. I gotta say, being off BCP has been interesting (I've been on for 13 years pretty much straight through). First month my hormones were out of control. Now some of this may have been quitting smoking too, but I seriously was insane. That's definitely leveled out (thank g-d!). I've noticed my skin has been really bad though off of BCP. Like - I haven't had breakouts like this since I was a teenager! Its crazy. Anyone else noticed this?

I had to go to the dermatolagist. They got my skin back in line though. My horemones also freaked out. I had been on BC since I was 18. So about nine years. I had just recently changed the brand I was on though because the old one stopped being covered on my insurance and WOOOWEEE I turned so psycho. I just totally got off them. We used different kinds of protection for a few months and now use none.