Rant About My OB!! UGH!!!

[Martha]

I posted this in the mommy-to-be thread, but there isn't a whole lof of us in there, and I need more thoughts/feeback. It's long, I am sorry.

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I had an OB appt and I am SO frustrated with my doctor. I am totally changing doctors after Noah is born. He has been my OB/GYN since I was 16. He is the one that diagnosed my PCOS (after I took him some stuff I found on the internet) and he is the one that removed the tumor from my ovary and half of that ovary...He has always taken his time with me and took time to talk to me and stuff..However, since I got pregnant, I feel like just a number and he doesn't take time to sit with me and ask if I have any questions. He is also my mom's OB/GYN and she says that she has noticed he is real rushed when she goes to see him also....

 

This is how my appt went yesterday...The nurse does weight check (still only up 22 pounds, no weight gain since my last appt 2 weeks ago), did urine sample, blood pressure. Went into examination room. She asked if I have had any contractions, if the baby is still moving a lot, etc...Asks if I have any problems or issues....I tell her that I still have a lot of vaginal pain and discharge and that for the past week I have had a sweet taste in my mouth that wont go away and that I can never quench my thirst. Super thirsty all the time! She says I still have sugar in my urine, so she will talk to him about it. She writes everything down and has me get undressed for the exam then leaves. After a few minutes of waiting, my doctor & nurse come in. Says that he doesn't know what the sweet taste in my mouth is, but it's probably just because I am pregnant. Ummm. oKay, nice answer.

 

He ignores the fact that my last 3 or 4 visits have shown sugar in my urine. He doesn't ask me any questions about my discharge nor my pain. He does the exam, which is super painful...He is a big man with big hands and fingers. blah! Anyhow, baby is still way up high and cervix is not softening yet.

 

He pulls me up and tells me he will see me in a week. He is a jokester, so I wasn't real surprised when he said, have sex 3x a day to soften up the cervix. I started laughing and said "ya right!" He said "why not? This is what got you in this situation to begin with." I said "ya, but not 3x a day!" He said "oh, well just lay there!" I totally knew he was joking and wasn't offended at all. He was saying all this as he was walking out the door. He never asked if I had any questions or anything.

 

UMMMM HELLO! I had questions to ask....like the sugar in my urine, if the baby is head down, can we tell about how big he is, my vaginal pain..ughhh!

 

He was wearing his hospital scrubs, so I don't know if he had a busy morning at the hospital or what, but this is how all my appts with him have been since March! WTF? You are getting PAID to essentially take care of me. Make sure I fell okay before you just run out.

 

I told Jay and he was upset about the sex comment because he doesn't think the way it was said was appropriate. He was also mad because he is concerned about the sugar in the urine...

 

I came home and Googled to see if I could figure this out on my own. It seems that because I passed the GTT, I am probably okay. Sometimes there will be sugar in the urine because of the kidney filtration. It's not too uncommon with preg women. This is reassuring. I had my dad check my blood sugar this morning and it was 80. So, I guess all is well there, but still!!!!

[boscobel]

Hmmmm, I can't say from a mom or pregnant standpoint, but I think you are on the right track to get a new OB/GYN! You only have a few weeks left and he totally should've made time to discuss these things with you, along with any other issues/questions you might have.

[Yari]

Yuck, what a horrible man. That just sounds wrong on so many levels! Too bad you can't switch now.

[Spazz]

You should definitely look for a new doctor after Noah gets here. Even if a doctor is busy, you are his patient and he needs to make time for you. You had questions and concerns that he needed to answer. You shouldn't have to resort to looking online for answers. I'm sorry, Martha

[Jacqueline]

ew i dont like the comment he made. i know he was joking but that last comment was totally uncalled for. even if he knows u can take a joke.

 

but anyway- i would def go to another doc.

 

maybe call them and say you had questions that werent answer and you felt rushed out. you should totally call them.

[Martha]

Thanks girls, I am so frustrated. I guess I can hang on until after Noah gets here. I don't even want him to deliver Noah at this point!

[Kelly C]

That totally sucks! Is there another doc in the practice that you can see. I totally had a run in with one of the docs in the practice that I go to before i delivered my daughter. I told the other doc what happened and she promised me she would deliver me. And she did. She was in surgery and the crab ass doctor was on call when my daughter decided to make her debute. The nurses stood at the door and wouldn't let him in. My fav doc ran in the last minute to catch. ( I had preclamisa and toximea and blew up like the stay puff marshmellow woman, he told me not to come back until i didn't reconize myself) Some docs just dont have bedside manner.

[Cattie]

I agree with what Kelly said. Is there another OB in the office you can demand to see? I would just say, I don't feel that I'm getting the bedside manner I feel that I should be getting at this time in my pregnancy and I would prefer to see another OB. They can't NOT let you see another. Its all the same practice. Hell when I go for my yearly, I'm never sure who I'm actually seeing, a midwife or one of the 2 OB/GYN's that are there!

 

You could always tell the nurse on your next time your concerns and see what she says.

 

I wish you and little Noah the best of luck!

[Martha]

That is horrible, Kelly. Good thing the nurses didn't let him in!

 

Unfortunately, it's just him...he is also a pharmacist, but this is his practice.

 

I wonder if it's not too late to just switch to a new one Except that I have already paid $460, the 10% of what my insurance doesn't pay to this doctor....UGH. I am so frustrated.

 

 

And, to top it all off, he tested me for Group B Strep about 8 weeks to early and now I don't know if the test came back accurate. WTF?

[JoLo908]

Definitely be completely comfortable with you Doctor.... and don't be afraid to say" Hey I am not leaving, I have questions and concerned, and as far as I know, I am paying a lot of money to be here right now." Let them know you are concerned... you have every right to know what is going on with your body....

Another thing a Dr. friend of mine said.... it is YOUR body... when a Dr. tells you something is "minor surgery", it may be minor to him/her, but it is major to you because it is happening to your body...

I had to switch my Doctor because I can't even use a good word to describe the guy I had, I felt the same way... He and his father ran the "business", and were not only OBGYNs, but also ran a cosmetic surgery center out of the same place. So, you have to wait forever to get an appt... well, I finally got in there, got an appt. a month after I called (I was having pain, and got nervous, I am not a freaking Doctor, get me an appointment!) So, I am in the waiting room for an hour and a half, and have class in like 45 min... and they start calling all these people who got there after me! I went up to the desk and they were like, "oh, you have an appt.? (even though I had checked in at the desk). THEN, when I said I had been waiting forever and had to leave, they offered to give me another appointment over a month away! WTF?! I flipped out... Some Doctors just plain suck... like the one i went to...

Call them, or walk in there, and be like, okay, here are a list of things I need to be addressed... and go for it...

Martha, doesn't it stink that to get normal answers you almost have to be pushy about it Things should not be this way! Frustrating!