Sending the Invite...need your opinions!!!

[drbrainfreeze]

Good morning everyone!

 

I need a little help in determining when to send out the invites and when to set the RSVP...

 

I am getting married on May 9th and leaving for Jamaica on May 5th.

 

Should I send out the invites in early November or wait a little longer? Also, should I set the RSVP by February 1st or March 1st.

 

I did send out STDs with TA info, but people seem to not remember? Plus we have a website with all the info on it, but same as with the STD, they call us for the TA info. The invites would have an enclosure with the TA and website info AGAIN!!!

 

Thanks for your input!

[Bianca]

Early November with an RSVP date of Feb 1st sounds great! Have you seen the May 2009 brides thread? There was some talk about this in there and this is the time line a couple brides are doing.

[*Casey*]

I think that for DWs it's always best to send everything out as soon as possible so people can plan around it. I totally agree with Bianca

[drbrainfreeze]

Thanks! I forgot about the May 2009 thread. Going to check it out now. Thanks for the info. Now I just need to order the things!!!

[foxytv]

Our wedding was April 19. We sent out invites in mid-October, asking for RSVP's before Thanksgiving (knowing many people would forget if we spread the RSVP date out until the next year). So then, January 1, I reminded people that Jan 15 was our absolute LATEST RSVP allowed, based on firming up rates and plans with our TA (the date was really FEB 15, but we knew we'd still have stragglers).

 

I would check with your TA (if you are using one) and see when they need absolute FINAL numbers -- and put the RSVP as one month prior to that so you can track down the slackers.

 

But definitely send the invites out sooner rather than later.

 

We did STD's also but only about a dozen people took them to heart and went to our wedding website for info and decided to be pro-active.

[rdhbride]

better sooner than later!

[RZurla]

I created my own save the dates and sent them out 10 months in advance - I wrote a letter on beach stationary that I got from staples and enclosed a brochure from the resort - they resort will send you as many as you want if you request them.

 

About a month before the wedding I sent our formal invitations that were a message in a bottle to people only that were booked already.

[RZurla]

ha ha - if your family and friends are anything like mine - RSVP date didnt mean a thing but you should let them know with as much notice in advance as you can. I sent mine as soon as I picked my date

[latinbeauty]

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Originally Posted by RZurla ha ha - if your family and friends are anything like mine - RSVP date didnt mean a thing but you should let them know with as much notice in advance as you can. I sent mine as soon as I picked my date

Oh God! I hope when it comes to the time i send the STDs my family even recognizes what the heck they are. I swear they are hopeless sometimes!

[Sloan]

We're getting married in April and we sent our invites (didnt do STD's) with all of the travel info the first week of August. Im still waiting for 1/3 of the RSVP's to come back and the reply date was Sept 15. Some people just emailed me to tell me their intentions and that was fine by me. It's the people, my so-called friends and family that have yet to send the RSVP back, email or even phone me... Ooops! Sorry went off on a bit of a tangent there...

 

Moral of the story = best to send out STD, invites, other info well in advance.