Did you meet your fiance online?
Posted 26 December 2011 - 02:46 PM
Posted 27 December 2011 - 08:34 AM
Yes...what a fun thread!! My fiance and I met on plentyoffish.com....which is kind of a horrible site and free...so you can guess the kind of riff raff that's on there. We both met our share of crazies. But I will say this, it kept my life extremely interesting, and fodder for comedic relief among all of my married friends. I'd just had a bad break up with a boyfriend and out of bitterness, set up a "I'll show you" profile one night after a few glasses of wine. I found my fiance's profile and thought he was adorable and sent him an email, thinking there was no way he'd respond. And a day later he did! So we exchanged emails a while, then I didn't hear from him. I chalked it up to the whole online "fishbowl" theory....you may catch one, but there's a ton more waiting to be hooked...and figured I wouldn't hear from him again. About a week later he sent me this long message about how he knew he'd blown me off, but he'd been burned and really didn't know if he wanted to jump back into dating and was afraid that the chemistry wouldn't be there in person but that he really liked me and how about maybe when he got back from vacation we could get coffee. Yes, it really ran on and on like that. I sent him one back that said he needed to chill out and that I wasn't looking to rush back into anything. Let's just meet and see what happens.
A week later he picked me up for our first date...we went out the next night for our 2nd date...and the rest is history. Our relationship, while it started online, has progressed very organically...at just the right pace. He is my best friend, and that is the best feeling ever. I have one other friend who met his GF on POF, and they have an amazing relationship too. I'm glad the stigma of online introductions is falling by the wayside. I think we have a fun story and I love telling it. Who cares how you get to the door as long as you walk through it together?
Posted 27 December 2011 - 09:06 AM
Originally Posted by Lua
plentyoffish.com of all places!!!
it had been a year since the awful heartbreaking end to my last relationship... (turns out my fiances previous relationship ended the same way). I was living in a town where I had no friends and was not a fan of going to bars, so online dating was my only option.
I came across a RossGellar on POf one day and as cheesy as it sounds, I'm not going to lie.. I kinda gasped when I saw his pic and new at that moment I had to be with him. I went totally out of character and sent him a message right away and proceeded to wait! When I noticed I had a message back from him I got those major butterflies in my stomach....the good type of butterflies which I STILL feel every day when I know I'm going to see him soon! We talked every single day for about a month before meeting. As crazy as it sounds, I invited him over to watch a movie and help me eat some chocolate cookies - his fav. From that moment on, we never looked back!
We quickly became the best of friends and 8 days after our 2 year dating anniversary, he proposed!
Lua....you and I are like soul sisters! My story is almost exactly the same...POF and butterflies included! Best wishes to you!
Posted 24 April 2012 - 07:26 PM
We didn't meet online although I've been MOH in 2 weddings in the last year where my good friends met their fiances on Lavalife and eHarmony. We met through work but were just friends. We actually got together for lunch one day to help write each other's online dating profiles as neither of us were having luck with the people we were meeting. It wasn't long before we realized that when we were describing what we wanted that it was each other! And the rest is history!
Posted 25 April 2012 - 08:49 AM
I love reading all of these stories!! My fiance and I met on Match.com! At the time, none of my friends had used online dating that I was aware of and I was a little afraid of the whole thing. After stalking the site for a while I finally got the nerve. I was only on Match for a few weeks but I was starting to get a little discouraged. Then I saw Eric had saved me as one of his "favorites". I waited a few days for him to make the first move but when nothing came, I sent him a message (probably fueled by a glass of wine!). We exchanged emails for a few weeks, then texts for another week or two. When we finally met, it just clicked. We met for happy hour and were still sitting at the bar chatting away at 11pm! The next date was the same thing and from that point on we were inseparable. It's hard to believe it's been 2 years and in 5 months he'll be my husband!! The funny thing is we only lived 3 miles apart, but I doubt I would have gotten the opportunity to know him without Match.
I even made believers out of my single girlfriends and now they do online dating. Fingers crossed their stories end up like mine!
Posted 25 April 2012 - 09:03 AM
This is such a great thread..its the new way of dating!
My fiance and I met on match.com. He actually found me, we chatted through their messenger that night that he "winked" at me. We chatted for 2 days via match then email and text, then he asked me out for a few drinks. We met at a local chain restaurant around 6:30pm and closed the bar out! We spent everyday/night after that together. I ended up moving in 5 months later with him. And it was 18 months to the day that we started "talking" on match that we were engaged!!!
I love hearing that so many others have had such success with online dating because all my friends thought it was "weird" that I was doing it. But all my friends were in relationships, I was in a profession dominated by males and it was the only way I could meet new people. I'm glad I did it and wouldn't change a thing!
Posted 26 April 2012 - 11:21 PM
My fiance & I met on a dating site! She had been doing the online thing for years, meeting people and going on dates, even getting serious with some people, but it was my first time using a dating site. (I did date one other person I met online before her, but that did not come about on purpose or from a dating site.)
That was back in 2006, and we ended up moving in together in 2007, nothing too rushed or out of the ordinary, except for the fact that I moved across the country to live with her! (We'd spent time together in person prior, of course.) We both knew before we moved in together that it was the real deal, but I'm happy we've been together as long as we have and waited this long to plan a wedding. We know all our friends have total peace of mind and confidence in our relationship, whereas friends tend to worry about couples who rush into marriage.
I think the opinion that meeting online is weird has lessened dramatically in the last few years, thanks to more and more people either trying it themselves, having friends who have, or just seeing endless commercials for sites like eharmony. I also think that how YOU feel about it (like, whether you're a bit embarrassed to admit you met someone that way, or whether you preface the fact with some version of, "It might sound weird, but it's really not...") can alter a person's reaction almost 100%. I used to start with an explanation of how it was totally normal, and the reaction from others was that it was something a little out there, if not completely weird. Now, I proudly state how we met, with no prefacing or pre-explanations, since I no longer worry it's weird myself. I find the reaction is completely different when you state simply, "We met on a dating site," the same way you might say, "We met at a party." In the rare event that someone says they think it's strange, I confidently shrug and say, "I don't think it is." In general, confidence in what you say causes people to rethink differing opinions.
Occasionally, people who are interested in giving it a try will ask what it's like, and I'll give them more info. Like, how great it is to be able to see someone you like, check a lot of important details out up front, and then get to know them on the inside a little bit, before you go out with them and have physical/sexual attraction sucking all your attention away from the other stuff that matters just as much. For me, it was also a great way to meet someone I could be certain was gay, without having to ask strangers totally awkward questions!
Posted 04 May 2012 - 01:56 AM
I love reading these stories. We didn't meet on an online dating site - but a mutual friend thought we'd be perfect for each other and suggested us as friends on facebook. He took the plunge and after chatting for a bit asked me out. The rest is history!
Posted 27 May 2012 - 07:34 PM
We met using Plenty of Fish.com... I had given myself one year to try the website. I met him about one week before my deadline was up. We exchanged a few emails first, then we talked on the phone. Our first conversation was 6 hours, the next was 4 hours. When we met finally met in person there was an instant connection and we have been inseparable ever since!
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