RSVP Vent

[dancingdolphin]

Hi Everyone,

We leave for the wedding on Oct 22nd. Knowing that some people would want to book last minute travel, I put the RSVP on my wedding invite as Sept 19th, knowing that I would have only 3 working weekends till we left (this coming weekend is my bachelorette).

 

This past weekend, I did the seating chart, printed out all the people / table #s and put them in the little picture frames. One thing off my to-do list. I figured it was a week after the RSVP date so anyone who hasn't RSVP'd probably isn't going. WRONG! Last nite, FI gets an email from one of his friends addressed to an unknown receipent list (BCC'd people) saying he just booked his airfare to our wedding and who else wants to go! WTF!?!?

 

If it is just him that ends up going, I have an empty seat at FMIL's table. I'm sure he won't enjoy dinner with FMIL and her friends, but oh well. FI wants me to pull apart another table of friends and put him there and another couple with FMIL. I'm refusing because it's more work, the other couple doesn't know FMIL or her friends either, and why should they be penalized when friend decided 10 days after my RSVP date and 3 wks before we leave.

 

I'm so tired of wedding planning stuff - I just want to be boarding the plane to Mexico now!!!

[DallasAshli]

That's so frustrating, especially since you gave them a deadline so close to the wedding! Take a deep breath and relax. Your wedding is less than a month away so let these things roll of your back and just stay excited!

[bigwuhead]

If there is one thing friends have taught me from their weddings...unless you get a very firm NO. Do not assume they arn't coming. My BF told me, she had to call 30 people for her wedding to find out and most people WERE going. They just forgot, lost the card or didn't even think of it.

 

It's hard to imagine that our wedding's arn't 1st on other people's list, but sadly it is so.

[Kla.Kari]

OMG! I can't stand the fact that people pay no attention to RSVP dates ....

I mean, there is a reason for that (like in your case, seating charts and probably final catering counts). Sheesh.

 

My aunt has told me she will be in charge of the phone call list after our RSVP date (to call everyone who hasn't responded).

[foxytv]

You are not alone, my friend. I think this has happened to the majority of us in one way or another. It is sssoooo frustrating. Just tell your rude friend that whoever jumps on the bandwagon is welcome at the resort - but not at the wedding and reception. People don't understand the whole planning process AT ALL.

[dancingdolphin]

Thanks for understanding and lending your perspectives. I was so mad yesterday that I just had to vent. Found out last nite that another of FI's friends who did RSVP saying NO asked another friend about the wedding details and is now "thinking" of going. I really can't believe these people.

 

I think it's partly because it is at an all-inclusive that people think we aren't paying for the reception / amt of people that attend. We've had to explain that concept of still paying because it's a private function to FMIL and FSIL.

 

As for not RSVP'ing, I don't expect the wedding to be top priority for the guests, but I consider it common courtesy to send back an RSVP which comes with a pre-paid stamped envelope. Maybe that's just me though...

 

(Obviously I'm still not over this. LOL!)

[syl1115]

I feel your pain. I had people RSVP and not show up! I gave them a deadline of 9/1 for my 9/19 wedding and I still have not recieved all of the RSVP's. Granted the wedding is over, but it is just common courtesy. Some people just don't have any manners.

[dancingdolphin]

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Originally Posted by syl1115 I feel your pain. I had people RSVP and not show up! I gave them a deadline of 9/1 for my 9/19 wedding and I still have not recieved all of the RSVP's. Granted the wedding is over, but it is just common courtesy. Some people just don't have any manners.

They didn't show up to your destination wedding I would be annoyed with that too, but I hope you didn't let it affect your wonderful day. It's their loss that they missed out.

[rdhbride]

people suck!!! they procrastinate!!!!

[nicmicj]

That is very frustrating! I wouldn't move the other people like you said, they shouldn't be penalized because of his tardiness.