My FI said he doesn't want to get married....and our wedding is in less than 3 months

[niels408]

I wish you the best & know that all us girls are here for you for support!

[~Debra~]

I've been reading and I was hoping things would work out for you. I'm so sorry to hear that it didn't. I will be thinking about you and your children. Stay strong. I wish you the best.

[samanthag]

I know right now things seem difficult & impossible but one day you will realize what a true blessing this is!!

You are a strong woman.

You will get through this.

[trophywife]

I'm so sorry you have to go through this, but I'm so happy he didn't string you along anymore. You are such a good woman and a terrific Mom!! Big hugs coming your way!!

[kevsgirl]

I am so so sorry for you My ex-fiance did something similar to me - we'd been together for 5 years, but no kids.

I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you with two kids and 10 years behind you.

On the plus side, you have your family and your kids and you will get through this.

You're young and strong and you found out quickly, which is really good.

 

I'll shut up now. I know going on isn't going to help you at all.

 

Just know we're here for you to listen.

[KLC77]

Oh honey, I'm so sorry to hear the end result, but as others said it will open other doors to you and better for you to know this now than after you are married. Thinking of you...

[Nitnylyin1]

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Originally Posted by dainanewell Thanks for all the support ladies....he told me last night that it was over for good....I told my parents and I'm starting to feel better.....I will be fine and so will my children.....Thanks

I am sorry to hear that this is happening to you and with such piss poor timing. But in the end isn't it better to know now rather than maybe 6 months after your wedding. I hope he is still being supportive with your children, obviously not financially if he has lost his job, but the best thing he can do for you at this point is to continue to be a respectable father. You and your children are in my thoughts.

[Martha]

I am so, so sorry. You don't HAVE to be strong....you are entitled to feel however you feel!

[jlwhite5]

oh sweets. im so sorry! i know there's nothing that i can do for you, but just know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. i cannot even imagine how difficult this must be for you. i believe that you'll make it through this and that your life will be all the better for it. i mean, if he couldn't whole heartedly commit to marry you, then he definitely wasn't the right one. i hope that you find someone who will be proud and excited to marry you. you deserve that! no matter what, you have your children and your family, and they will always love you and be there for you and that's an awesome thing. i think you should take your children and go to punta cana or somewhere tropical, and just get away... enjoy your time together. i wish you tons of happiness and hope only the best things for you!

[A10CalGal]

Wow, I've been following your thread. I am sorry this has happened to you. But like the others have mentioned, better before the marriage is official...although in a lot of states you would be considered common law spouses at this point. I think that he must be incredibly weak/scared...it just doesn't make sense to spend 10 years and make 2 babies with someone & not want to marry them.

 

Sorry girl, but you totally deserve better.