My FI said he doesn't want to get married....and our wedding is in less than 3 months
Posted 21 September 2008 - 01:28 PM
Posted 21 September 2008 - 01:33 PM
Posted 21 September 2008 - 01:38 PM
He better start talking soon! Good luck. Remember we are all here for you.
Posted 21 September 2008 - 01:44 PM
I agree, take the kids and go away for a few days. Give him time to process & digest. My guess is that somewhere inside, is the little "man voice" that says if he can't provide for you, he shouldn't be moving forward. (No matter how much men evolve, they always have this little voice inside them that mostly "hides" during everyday life. And a job loss usually stirs this voice up.)
If he seems to be backing off communication, then I'd say take it slow... no matter how hard it is, try to get him talking about things that might be less "emotional"... like maybe look at his news from the perspective of: "well, we need to talk about how we're going to cancel the wedding"... maybe it would be easier for him to begin talking when the subject is more 'matter of fact', and could then ease into what really needs to be discussed.
I'm sorry you're going through this... and I hope it works out the best way for everyone involved....
Posted 21 September 2008 - 01:45 PM
Posted 21 September 2008 - 02:13 PM
This kind of happened with my last marriage and I stupidly left when I wish I hadn't. If he wants to bail make him go then it'll hit him right between the eyes otherwise he's going to be saying yeah she'll be back.
It'll work out but stay strong you have to show you aren't giving up without a fight xx
Posted 21 September 2008 - 02:57 PM
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