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#1 cougs

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    Posted 18 September 2008 - 07:46 PM

    my future FIL just got laid off today. he supports his wife (she can only work part-time), three college-age children who still live with him, four cats, and a dog. their finances were pretty much a mess before the layoff, so i'm imagining there's no "emergency fund" to fall back on. i hope he got some sort of good severance package at least ... oh, and his vehicle was a company car too. thankfully, they live in philadelphia, so there's at least public transportation.

    times like these i feel guilty for the wedding expenses and especially so for having a destination wedding they are spending so much on just to attend for their son. and my fiance feels like a schmuck for the new golf clubs he just bought when he knows his parents are going to be struggling now.

    in other craziness, my *matron* of honor still thinks she might be pregnant (despite several pee-tests saying NO) ... then i just saw my *maid* of honor (yes, i have both) tuesday night and *SHE's* 8 days late!

    this morning i found out one of my bridesmaids left her husband yesterday. took the kids and moved back in with her mother!

    what the heck is going on here?!?!?!! craziness! and how weird that in the midst of wedding planning, my life is the LEAST drama-ridden of them all!?!

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      Posted 18 September 2008 - 07:59 PM

      breathe and take it one second at a time

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        Posted 18 September 2008 - 08:05 PM

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        Originally Posted by mummergirl
        my future FIL just got laid off today. he supports his wife (she can only work part-time), three college-age children who still live with him, four cats, and a dog. their finances were pretty much a mess before the layoff, so i'm imagining there's no "emergency fund" to fall back on. i hope he got some sort of good severance package at least ... oh, and his vehicle was a company car too. thankfully, they live in philadelphia, so there's at least public transportation.

        times like these i feel guilty for the wedding expenses and especially so for having a destination wedding they are spending so much on just to attend for their son. and my fiance feels like a schmuck for the new golf clubs he just bought when he knows his parents are going to be struggling now.

        in other craziness, my *matron* of honor still thinks she might be pregnant (despite several pee-tests saying NO) ... then i just saw my *maid* of honor (yes, i have both) tuesday night and *SHE's* 8 days late!

        this morning i found out one of my bridesmaids left her husband yesterday. took the kids and moved back in with her mother!

        what the heck is going on here?!?!?!! craziness! and how weird that in the midst of wedding planning, my life is the LEAST drama-ridden of them all!?!

        wow!! I'm sorry about your FFIL! The Econmy is really horrible right now and everyone who actually has a job should really be thankful.
        I understand what you mean about feeling guilty for the wedding expenses.
        Our parents threw us a engagement party this weekend, that they were planning from before we decided to have this and I didn't want it! Not because I am ungrateful (It was a really great party) but because I feel like in the next year I know we'll have a shower thrown for us and on top of that, people have to put out money to come see us get married!
        So I really know what you mean....I hope for the best for you r Future in laws!!

        And OMG about the other craziness going!!!
        All I can say is, be there for whoever you need to...and thank god that all
        this drama has nothing to do with your wedding :-)
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          Posted 18 September 2008 - 08:17 PM

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          wow!! I'm sorry about your FFIL! The Econmy is really horrible right now and everyone who actually has a job should really be thankful.
          i hear ya ... and just yesterday i made a post b*tching about how my company isn't giving raises (again) ...

          "i'm lucky to have a job. i'm lucky to have a job. i'm lucky to have a job."

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            Posted 18 September 2008 - 09:24 PM

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            i hear ya ... and just yesterday i made a post b*tching about how my company isn't giving raises (again) ...

            "i'm lucky to have a job. i'm lucky to have a job. i'm lucky to have a job."
            It's actually a scary time. I always joke about getting laid off and how I could only be so lucky, but it's no joke now :-(
            We can only hope it gets better from here!
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            #6 Michelle

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              Posted 18 September 2008 - 09:31 PM

              wow thats alot of drama going on! I hope everything works out for your FFIL and maybe he can find another job easily :) (this doesnt make this any better though) and wow i guess bridesmaids dresses may have to get altered for your bridal party but thats kind of exciting :) I hope everything works out though :)

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                Posted 18 September 2008 - 09:33 PM

                Hang in there. This has been a terrible week in the markets and hopefully this will be the worst it gets...

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                  Posted 19 September 2008 - 06:08 PM

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                  wow thats alot of drama going on! I hope everything works out for your FFIL and maybe he can find another job easily :) (this doesnt make this any better though) and wow i guess bridesmaids dresses may have to get altered for your bridal party but thats kind of exciting :) I hope everything works out though :)
                  well about bridesmaid dresses, my wedding is about 8 months away, so if either of them ARE pregnant, they won't be coming at all.

                  i'll be sad for me, but ecstatic for them ... my niece has been married 3 1/2 years already and my sis is just dying for a grandchild! my friend on the other hand was once told she couldn't have children so it will be a shocker for her but such a blessing.

                  i'm just so surprised that for once *i'm* not the one with all the drama! LOL

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                    Posted 19 September 2008 - 06:26 PM

                    Things like this really put things into perspective, dont they...good luck to all your future family and friends!!!
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                      Posted 19 September 2008 - 06:40 PM

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                      Things like this really put things into perspective, dont they...good luck to all your future family and friends!!!
                      yeah i definitely stopped complaining about not getting a raise!




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