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#21 Kat81

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    Posted 19 September 2008 - 06:03 PM

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    We're some where in between everyone's situation. My FI is inviting everyone left and right with the 'verbal' invitation and we sent out real invitations to select people. We are paying per head so he makes me bang my head against the wall. I don't mind at all if people want to bring a date or even a friend so they are not alone the whole time and I expect that people will bring their immediate family (children, spouse) but we've had a couple of guests say their mother/sister/cousin/etc want to go and I just don't say anything back. When it comes down to it and we know these 'extra' guests are for sure going, we'll do what many girls are suggesting; whoever wants to go to Mexico can go to Mexico but we may not be able to accommodate people's personal guests at our wedding ceremony and reception. I'm keeping in mind what most gals say and that is that about half of the people that say they're coming will actually come. Our wedding is two months away and several people in our wedding party haven't even booked yet. We're not pressuring and prodding any one, if they come they come!
    Our groomsmen seriously booked three days before our wedding. My MIL booked four days before the wedding!! Talk about stress!

    #22 meagan

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      Posted 19 September 2008 - 06:11 PM

      I just sent out my invitations yesterday. Our wedding is 9 months away but whoever wants to go has to put down a deposit by January. I am so happy you guys wrote this so I know what to expect (hopefully not) and what my repsonse will be. It is unbelievable how people invite other people to your wedding. I know its their vacation too, but they should understand it's your wedding. People should be more respectful of what this is about.

      This is the type of conversation that makes me drink! URG people make me so annoyed!

      #23 Samantha S

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        Posted 19 September 2008 - 06:14 PM

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        Our groomsmen seriously booked three days before our wedding. My MIL booked four days before the wedding!! Talk about stress!
        NO WAY!!!! That is how some of my family members will be. Did they pay up the you know what?

        #24 dainanewell

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          Posted 19 September 2008 - 06:16 PM

          We didn't send out invitations...we only invited family and a few close friends...we wanted a very small wedding....we gave 50 people our travel agents information and right now we only have 16 people who put deposits down...and our wedding is in less then 3 months ...good luck to you...happy planning

          #25 Kat81

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            Posted 19 September 2008 - 06:39 PM

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            NO WAY!!!! That is how some of my family members will be. Did they pay up the you know what?
            NO! I hoped they would I was like it will teach them!! But they ended up paying the same amount as everyone else! Oh well at least they came. Did I ever tell you that they showed up with black pants?! I told them specifically tan pants.... they liked the black ones with brown pin striping so they bought those. The day before the wedding they let us know that they were black! That was my mini bridezilla moment. I told Ryan I didn't care what they looked like I didn't want to see them! I just want them to go find tan pants now. So, they day of the wedding they went to the mall to find some tan pants! I couldn't f'n believe it! They kept saying they were 140 dollar pants they are really nice! I told them I didn't care if they were made of gold and diamonds they were going and buying tan pants lol. In the end they came up to me and told me I was right and black would have looked totally out of place. Later I did see the pants and they were very nice pants but they are lucky they didn't show me them before the wedding because I would have strangled them both!!!

            #26 Hartyt509

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              Posted 19 September 2008 - 07:11 PM

              I've been really blunt with people and said look you're my mate but your on off girlfriend isn't she isn't invited lol

              FMIL was told straight by FI that only SHE and arsehole were invited any rogue ones and she was off the list 2.

              Sometimes you just have to be straight to the point, ie its a free world by all means come to mexico but don't think you are the wedding because you aren't lol

              i've, as yet, not had any rogue ones lol

              #27 cancunbride

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                Posted 20 September 2008 - 10:47 PM

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                I've been really blunt with people and said look you're my mate but your on off girlfriend isn't she isn't invited lol

                FMIL was told straight by FI that only SHE and arsehole were invited any rogue ones and she was off the list 2.

                Sometimes you just have to be straight to the point, ie its a free world by all means come to mexico but don't think you are the wedding because you aren't lol

                i've, as yet, not had any rogue ones lol

                Harty, Im going to invade your wedding without an invite. hahaha Ill be there at the same time as you, hopefully we can have a drink or two before each others wedding... lol

                #28 kate.com

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                  Posted 20 September 2008 - 10:54 PM

                  you girls are too funny!
                  People just dont think! I am starting to figure this out while planning this wedding. Its your day! Your money! Tell them that.

                  #29 Hartyt509

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                    Posted 21 September 2008 - 05:47 AM

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                    Harty, Im going to invade your wedding without an invite. hahaha Ill be there at the same time as you, hopefully we can have a drink or two before each others wedding... lol
                    Now that is strange because I was gonna say that to you lol I get there the 11th until the 25th lol You can invade I don't mind most of my you aren't invited is aimed at a good m8s on off g/f and FMIL lmao BDW girls get a special pass lol only restriction is NO PINK lmao

                    Bloody LISA HOPE YOU ARE LISTENING swapped her date and I need someone that can stop me drowning FMIL lmao

                    #30 cougs

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                      Posted 21 September 2008 - 12:57 PM

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                      Bloody LISA HOPE YOU ARE LISTENING swapped her date and I need someone that can stop me drowning FMIL lmao
                      LMAO marie! sorry but i kinda needed a date that the groom could be there! i'm a little sad no one on BDW seems to be getting married during my week ... there was someone named quackquack that was supposedly the 30th but i haven't seen any posts from them in ages.

                      if you haven't already done in your FMIL by the time i get there, i'll lend a hand ... i mean to stop you LOL ... that kinda sounded like i was going to help you drown her, didn't it?




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