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#1 cancunbride

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    Posted 17 September 2008 - 03:24 PM

    So I'm starting to finally get my responses back from several guests. I have specifically stated on the envelope who the invite is addressed to and I got a respond from a friend indicating that she is bringing her son, husband, brother and sister in law. WTF!!! I feel like Im turning into bridezilla!! My close friend is single and wants to bring a date, I was ok with that but its like she dates a different guy every month and I know I wont be seeing him the month after that...And my mother in law....she is like inviting everyone without my consent... ugh-- Im soo annoyed!! How do I say NO??

    #2 Kat81

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      Posted 17 September 2008 - 03:28 PM

      Just tell them you already reserved the place for a certain amount of people and do to booking reasons only those on the invite are invited.

      #3 DanielleNDerek

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        Posted 17 September 2008 - 03:30 PM

        I would just tell them that you don't care if so and so goes on vacay with them, but they cannot come to your wedding because you are limited to a certain number of guests due to space constraints.
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        #4 Bisha

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          Posted 17 September 2008 - 03:38 PM

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          I would just tell them that you don't care if so and so goes on vacay with them, but they cannot come to your wedding because you are limited to a certain number of guests due to space constraints.
          I agree. Actually, I honestly dont think you even need to give any excuses, just let them know EXACTLY who'se invited to the wedding and that the rest of their vacation is their business.

          #5 Anna83

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            Posted 17 September 2008 - 07:28 PM

            I agree, you can tell them they are welcome to go on vacation, but there won't be room for them at the wedding. People that don't even know you probably won't care and won't even want to come to your wedding.

            #6 cougs

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              Posted 17 September 2008 - 07:50 PM

              this kinda happened to me with FMIL inviting EVERYONE. she actually thought she was doing us a FAVOR, because she thought the more people we got to go, the better group rates we could get! LMAO

              we had to set her straight that although it is an all-inclusive, we are still paying per person for a private, intimate affair. people are more than welcome to vacation with us but only those invited to the wedding can attend it. she sorta gets it now.

              but tom's half-brother and his wife are invited, and they are bringing her parents along with them on vacation, mostly to help watch their baby. honestly, we've had so many people drop out we told him to give us their address and we'll send them an invite as well.

              #7 Erica053009

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                Posted 17 September 2008 - 08:46 PM

                Tell then that you still have to pay per person to come to the wedding so you have to stay to the budget

                #8 FoxyBride

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                  Posted 17 September 2008 - 08:53 PM

                  As odd as it may seem, lots of people have NO idea that there are per person costs associated with weddings. I would suggest that you gently, but clearly, state this and make it clear it's not just a personal preference, but a money issue. Most people will understand that.

                  #9 mpajkos

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                    Posted 17 September 2008 - 09:22 PM

                    I agree with the other girls. I would call her and say something like "I see you replied that you, mr. and child are attending in addition to brother and sil. The resort is very strict about the number of people and I hadn't planned for brother and sil to come to the wedding. I hope you understand we just can't accomadate that many people. Good Luck! I know its aggravating!

                    #10 cancunbride

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                      Posted 17 September 2008 - 11:20 PM

                      Thank you guys all sooo much!!! I really do appreciate it...I will totally use these responses in a kind way...Its so frustrating having to explain to people that they cant come.

                      Thanks girls I don't think I would be as strong in telling people no as I am right now!!!




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