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I'm not sure if this is the right thread or not but I hope the mods will post it in the right forum if i posted wrong! sorry!!!

 

Here it goes... everyone is stessing me out! First my family is expecting me to house my brother when he returns from iraq. Which I am willing to just not forever.. (my 26 yr old sister is living rent free at my parents when she should move out and let our brother live there!) Anyway that is my first headache. My second headache is my FIL. We decided to have a childless reception being in Key West and all and not really having a good alternative for children. Well my sister in law has decided she is going to drive the kids down to KW anyway and figure it out when she gets here! WHAT!!!!!!!! How can she decide that! What is it about weddings that make people figure they can plan on doing what they want whether invited or not!!!!! My FI is so fed up he wants to elope now! I'm not too far behind his decision.. Please help!!! I need talking off the ledge. friday.gif before we drink ourselves off the ledge! :)

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Thanks Meagan!

We'll get through it.. somehow it always seems to work out. This time it is just a little too much. If you know what I mean. I thought that if we were paying for the wedding people wouldn't feel able to put there two sense in but that doesn't seem the case.... bummer!!!

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I’m so sorry to hear that you are so close to saying “forget it” to your dream wedding. The only advise I can provide is, do what YOU want to do! After that, just go along for the ride, let everyone know what you expect and what you are arranging. Then let them respect your decision or not. At some point you have to not worry about what other people want and are going to do. You cant control everyone so plan your dream and forget trying to accommodate everyone else. Remember families are not perfect, that’s why we love them.

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Thanks Meagan!
We'll get through it.. somehow it always seems to work out. This time it is just a little too much. If you know what I mean. I thought that if we were paying for the wedding people wouldn't feel able to put there two sense in but that doesn't seem the case.... bummer!!!
People will have an opinion no matter who is paying or what you decide to do. Can your FI talk to his sister abut the kids situation? Maybe he can just tell her that the reception is adults only and she'll get the hint (or not, but at least you tried).

All I can say is don't let them ruin your dream wedding. If eloping is really what you want, then go for it. But if Key West is your dream then I say just do what you want and enjoy your day. I know it is easier said than done, but try not to stress out about it.

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The first part of your problem is a big one which I can't offer any advice. For the overall frustration, just keep your eyes on the prize! It's just you and the love of your life, standing together in front of your friends and family...the rest is just details.

 

I tried fighting my family on who they wanted to invite and had the most terrible time with thoughts of eloping. It occurred to me that unless what they did or said stood in the way of my perfect "I do" moment, it didn't matter!

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That is really unfair when people can't put themselves aside during other peoples moments! Is she planning on finding a babysitter down there? Or do you think she is going to just dress them up and bring them saying she couldn't find anyone to watch them....obviously being the plan from the beginning? Sorry you have to deal with this.

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Oooo I'd run away lol

 

Seriously tho about your brother, my FI is in the army so I feel qualified to say this lol, when he gets back from Iraq trust me he is going go want to to get his own place asap and not hang around your place. However just tell him straight you will help him out for a short while but if he's old enough for Iraq he is old enough to find a place to live himself.

 

As for the sister i'd ring her and tell her straight, kids are not invited. If she wants to bring them fine but don't think for one minute they will be at the reception because they wont and you will personally see to it lol. Stand up to her now or she'll do it all the time.

 

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deep breath... shot of tiquila, and yeah. Seems like weddings bring out the drama in our life- I think we are all there so you are not alone or crazy!

 

Everything will work out! Stand your ground and stick by your FI!!! punk.gif

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