Proper etiquette when someone thinks they are in wedding...but aren't
Posted 11 September 2008 - 06:47 PM
BUT I do want to ask if you want to maintain her as a friend or if you are just willing to let it go? If you take a moment to evaluate if you want her around and decide she's too important to let go, talk to her. Let her know how you feel. She might be a person that has a hard time dealing with difficult stuff so she's avoiding and hoping you don't notice. Obviously you do notice. Make her aware of that. It's hard to make good friends the older we get.
I'm glad to hear your FI is doing better. I know it's probably really tough to keep the smile and remain positive. Use the forum as a release. It works wonders.
Posted 11 September 2008 - 07:58 PM
Maybe she feels really bad for you and just feels awkward and doesn't know how to approach the issues or what to say to comfort and help you. So instead she ignores it and uses time as a distance so that things blow over and go back to normal.. I am sure she loves you - if she didn't she would have never called to ask you a random question about the wedding.
I say talk to her about your feelings and then approach the wedding.
Posted 11 September 2008 - 09:00 PM
Posted 15 September 2008 - 09:53 AM
SHE WAS YOUR BEST FRIEND! TELL HER SHE'S BEING A SC*MB*G!! HELLOOO??!!! I would never in a million years beat around the bush about my best friend not being there for me if my man was diagnosed with cancer or if I was getting married. To tell you the truth I was a bad friend when my best friend was getting married last year. WHen she got engaged I was in a rocky relationship that I wanted desperately to work and I just treated her like crap... until she told me WHAT THE HECK ARE YOU DOING??!! We're best friends and we don't treat eachother like this!! So, of course, I re-evaluated the situation and agreed to go try on dresses with her and make the next two years of my life filled with planning my best friend's wedding (not what I WANTED to do, but that which was my duty as a friend for 15 years).
Best friends should be able to talk to eachother. Why is everyone so afraid to say something?
Tell her she's a jerk and she's not there for you and until she is, she can forget about being part of your wedding.
(No MORE Ms. Nice Girl!!)
Posted 15 September 2008 - 10:09 AM
I say do whatever feels right to YOU and don't worry about etiquette or sparing her feelings. Yours are obviously hurt already - and I don't blame you a bit.
Blessings to you and FI.
Posted 15 September 2008 - 10:54 AM
Posted 19 September 2008 - 09:48 AM
| Originally Posted by Sah |
I think I would just say you can wear any color except purple bc that's what color my bridesmaids are wearing and of course white that's reserved for me If you can pull off saying it in a kind of an airy conversation way. And make the joke at the end. I really hope your fiance has a fast recovery. Its great that your able to be so strong for him. Best of luck!
Posted 01 October 2008 - 04:43 PM
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