I see an RSVP nightmare in my future...

Celina · September 10, 2008

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Originally Posted by KAMAY11

I think having the bridal contact them with the msg you wrote is the best thing to do (it's polite, but gets the point across). Hoping that they DON'T come is risky...what if for some reason they do show up?? (maybe just to torture you?? Lol.)Then your seating, tables, food etc etc. might be screwed up!!

Right...I don't want any of them to show up unexpectedly. They will really see where they rate with me when they end up sitting in the hall! Haha!

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Originally Posted by kate.com

what is it with people not RSVPing... it's a free stamp for craps sake, stick it in the mail.
I'd call so you can stop thinking about it, obviously they are not losing sleep over it, why should you!

I KNOW! Keep in mind these people still send invitations to my dads house for me! I have not lived at home in 16 years! I told my step mom yesterday that they are too cheap to buy more invitations for anything and wouldn't even dream of buying extra stamps for anything! Don't even get me started on how much we spent on postage for everything!

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Originally Posted by Oscar_Ernie

Asking your dad to call would be smart. Asking your BMs might be asking a bit much of them, but if you think they totally wouldn't mind, then go for it. Personally though, if I was that worried about it, I'd be making the calls myself. Maybe they'd realize it was VERY important if the busy bride took some of her own precious time to make the calls. I know this may not be realistic for you, but just thought I'd throw it out there. I know if it was me and I was really concerned, I'd just do it myself. It's terrible, but sometimes I just have to go with the "if you want something done right, just do it yourself."

I'll give you a little background info....my dad's family is the reason I decided to do a DW to begin with. They will come if there is free food, free alcohol and it is convenient. FI and I didn't want to have a big wedding here because we werent' having a party for them KWIM?

I'm telling you...if I call, my sarcasim would be obvious and just to make things not be any worse, I think I'll have the BM's call when it comes down to it. My MOH and 1 of my BM's are both stay at home mom's. Not saying they aren't busy, but I work full time, have to keep up with BDW (he-he) and I am busy with two kids at home. FI works nights, so I'm pretty much a single mom during the week. Overall I don't think it would be a hassle for the BM and MOH to make the calls when the time comes.

I DEF won't have my dad do it because he is a softy. I think after the wedding is over I am washing my hands with these peeps. I will also remind my dad that I really don't want to hear about them.

Some of the resentment I get from them is jealousy. Whenever my dad or his kids do something, we don't half step and usually go all out. They are too lazy, and un motivated to do anything the way we do. Finances arent' an excuse either because they all have good jobs - just different priorities I guess.

Nothing wrong with that, but in the end they always end up hating on us because of it. I think AmyH told me a long time ago that as Hispanics we are always tearing down eachother and she was right.

Ill get off my soapbox!