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OMG our divorce was very friendly, even the day of our divorce, we went to court and then went out to dinner and went to the casino. He's a nice guy, just had some personal issues he needed to deal with and we got married WAY to young so he was always more of a friend then anything else.

 

I love his parents, and I still stay in contact with them and my ex.

 

When I asked my ex-MIL for a picture she replied "are you trying to make me cry, that was such a happy time in my life". She said she will always consider me as her only daughter.... She's had a lot of rough times over the years, shoot even to this day it seems like a black cloud is alwasy over her head. But we were always able to make each other laugh, which I think is the reason why we were so close..

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That's awesome, Tammy. I remember you asking if they should attend and be a part of your wedding. In my mind, I find it silly when people cut off all ties when they divorce - I mean, you were close to them, loved them, etc. all for a reason - how can that just cut off? I think it's great you're still close. I don't think that just because you and your ex aren't married anymore should mean you can't have a good relationship with them still!

 

Anyway - not sure where that came from. I am not close with my ex in-laws, but I never really was. My ex and I are still close - we work for the same company still! His current wife is due w/twins - and I plan on sending them a baby gift. I mean, our marriage didn't work out - it doesn't mean I want to never speak to him again!

 

(can you tell I don't want to work today!?)

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Ann and Tammy I think its amazing that your first marriages ended so peacefully, so many don't and its terrible for the family to go through. When I was growing up my mom still saw her MIL mainly because of me, but even now, my Grandma still buys her a Christmas & Birthday Present, my grandpa loved my mom and once they told me that she was their favorite DIL, possibly because I was their favorite grandchild ;o)

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My mom & dad are still friendly too. They don't hang out or chit-chat, but can speak and be together (usually because of us kids) without a problem. At my sister's partner's graduation recently, we actually had a great time - there were "broken" families everywhere, and no drama! lol

 

I can never thank them enough for being "civil" to eachother and in front of us kids. They really could have done some damage. I had friends whose parent bad mouthed eachother and used the kids against eachother - and it would make me so mad!!

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I feel bad, because I know how bad my ex-inlaws loved me (still does) but at the same time I know it's hard for them to see me getting married again. I think they always hoped that my ex and I would get back together once my ex worked out all his problems. I think it will be even harder on them when and if I ever have a baby. I know they are happy for me, shoot they even offered to throw me a shower.

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oh wow - that's so sweet! i assume Cain knows you still have a relationship with them? hopefully Cain is secure enough with you to not be threatened! and for the baby - maybe you can still visit them with the baby. a little baby can never have too many people to love it!

 

has your ex straightened out now? is he in another relationship? that poor girl that marries him ... she will always have to live up to Tammy! lol

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Yes Cain is ok with me still talking to my ex-inlaws.. However he doesn't like that when he sees my ex-MIL that she always says that she wishes I was marrying into her family again. But I know she means no harm by it, it just puts Cain in a weird spot. which I also understand.

 

My ex,, well he doesn't have great luck with women,, lol however he is dating someone now that we (his Mom and I) are hoping turns into something special.. He's never been the type to have the girl meet his family until "she's the one" so my ex-MIL is waiting for the phone call to say "lets do lunch" or something.

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ann &tammy i think your relationship with your ex-in-laws is great, but i assume not the norm.

 

my FSIL doesnt really like to talk about the past, so its tough to gauge her feelings on the matter!

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