It's official Solo Bride with no BM'S!!

[2bebridejamaica]

While I am still trying to process this whole thing ... my last BM called me tonight during dinner and told me she isn't coming. I have 73 days left and she waited till now to tell me. I went from 4 now to 0!!! Some of ya know the story... but come on... she has been going through everything with me and up until a month ago everything was perfect and she told me that even though everyone else had backed out she was gonna be here for me, since my friends are my "family" and I don't have any real family joining us. It's been hard enough to go through the other backing out for all different reasons and my Sandals girls know what I have been chatting about, BUT her whole trip has been paid for since March!! Granted she took the ins so she will get it all back but 100 bucks for her and her husbands trip...

 

Through this whole process of finding out who is who in my life... and the strain of crying my eyes because everything felt like it was falling apart here is just something else to add to the mess I am going to call my wedding.

 

One thing I do know is that this day is about Jay and I which I can't wait for November to get here so we can have our "happy begining".. BUT WHOLLY CRAP when it rains it really does pour. My friends are my family and that is all I really have ... without having them to share our special day .. it makes me feel honestly ... loser - like?? This whole wedding will have all of Jays family (yes which is mine and has been from the get go) and his friends..

 

I'm not sorry for my rant ... cuz I needed to get this out ... but after a few glasses of wine I'm in a happy mood a peacefull place... LOL..... and CRAP is my favorite word since I really try not to swear around my 5 yr old... 8o)

 

So tomorrow when I give Ann my BL weigh in ... I will be at the bottom of the list with like 5lbs gained... YAY!!!!!!!

[ChristinaH]

Wow - I'm so sorry. That's just terrible, but I can feel for you. While I never had any BMs to begin with, I was really counting on my BFF from high school and my sister being at my wedding. Now, neither of them can make it (for good reasons) but my big brother can't make it either.

 

Long story short, I basically feel that I am having a circus of a wedding with a bunch of "spares" coming to Mexico with us. My fiance has his parents from his side - that's it! I have my parents and little bro. Everyone else is a friend or a "spare."

 

But you're right - it's about you and your FI! And I hope I can get to that point of thinking because right now I feel like I'm paying for a circus.

 

I really do hope you have a great wedding. Congratulations to you & your FI! I bet it will be beautiful and fun, no matter who is there with you!

[kevsgirl]

Oh man, Amanda. That really does suck, huge

 

I know how it feels to not know if anyone's coming and to feel like you have no one who cares and no friends!

For some reason my family ended up partially rallying around me and FI's family may finally be turning around, but I guess the not knowing is really quite bad. And so far we have no friends confirmed, well, FI has a friend and his wife and twin sons who are coming, which was a really unexpected surprise. But no friends who we see daily...

 

We all know that ultimately it's about you two and it will be totally magnificent, even if those friends of yours don't come. They'll miss out on a very special day and they'll never get that back. You'll still have a blast.

 

Chin up. Things'll be fine for all of us

[**~Jenn~**]

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Originally Posted by 2bebridejamaica While I am still trying to process this whole thing ... my last BM called me tonight during dinner and told me she isn't coming. I have 73 days left and she waited till now to tell me. I went from 4 now to 0!!! Some of ya know the story... but come on... she has been going through everything with me and up until a month ago everything was perfect and she told me that even though everyone else had backed out she was gonna be here for me, since my friends are my "family" and I don't have any real family joining us. It's been hard enough to go through the other backing out for all different reasons and my Sandals girls know what I have been chatting about, BUT her whole trip has been paid for since March!! Granted she took the ins so she will get it all back but 100 bucks for her and her husbands trip... Through this whole process of finding out who is who in my life... and the strain of crying my eyes because everything felt like it was falling apart here is just something else to add to the mess I am going to call my wedding. One thing I do know is that this day is about Jay and I which I can't wait for November to get here so we can have our "happy begining".. BUT WHOLLY CRAP when it rains it really does pour. My friends are my family and that is all I really have ... without having them to share our special day .. it makes me feel honestly ... loser - like?? This whole wedding will have all of Jays family (yes which is mine and has been from the get go) and his friends.. I'm not sorry for my rant ... cuz I needed to get this out ... but after a few glasses of wine I'm in a happy mood a peacefull place... LOL..... and CRAP is my favorite word since I really try not to swear around my 5 yr old... 8o) So tomorrow when I give Ann my BL weigh in ... I will be at the bottom of the list with like 5lbs gained... YAY!!!!!!!

I'm so sorry! I don't know the whole story, but from what you told me here its a real shame.....You do seem to have the right attitude though, and while I know it's dissapointing when your family (in this case your friends since they are like your family) backs out....It will help you to remember that your marrying your real "best friend" and this day is about the two of you making this commitment.
Everyone who didnt make it will be sorry in the end...especially after they see how beautiful you looked and how great everything turned out!!
i am going through some drama myself, and we just set our date on Sunday!! So I imagine there is more to come.
So far, my brother & his family.....the ones I rearranged my dates for so it wouldn't coincide with his kids communion and dance recitals...Well he all of a sudden can't afford it.
I'm not being mean, and if someone can't afford it..who am I to say you can? But he was the LAST person who i thought would be telling me he can't afford it....But Whatever.
We also had other people making comments about pricing and my thoughts are...if you can't come, don't, but don't tell me how much you can't afford and all of your money situations...We have our own money issues to manage and a wedding to pay for...on our own!!
UGH

Anyway...Keeo your chin up...your getting married soon!! YAY :-)

[KLC77]

Oh Amanda, I'm so sorry! That must be so stressful. I can't believe that after the whole trip was paid she backed out. I would've thought it'd be smooth sailing after it was booked. I hope she had a GOOD reason, although I don't know what I'd accept as a good reason if she knew of everything else that was going on before this (except something medical of course). I hope that November comes before you know it and you are having a wonderful time at your wedding! See you in the BL3 thread tomorrow...

~Kelly

[Davematthews16]

I'm very sorry I know it sucks to get the news that your "final" BM isn't going to show up. It's funny because I think it would be SO AWESOME to get invited to a DW, ESPECIALLY being asked to be in it! I'm suprised at how people bail, beat around the bush, or never intend on coming in the first place. (I have people in all 3 categories) I know it's a bummer, but just remember it's all about you and your FI, and if people are ignorant enough to miss it, then it's their loss. Just have an amazing time, and trust me when I say, that people will REGRET it if they don't go.

[Jen_S]

Oh I am so sorry this has happened to you. Don't feel like a looser the most important person will be there and that is your hubby to be. I know it still sucks though. I hope you BMs had good reasons and that it does not hurt your friendship. Your wedding will still be perfect!

[DanielleNDerek]

I'm sorry everyone is dissappointing you. I'm sure she had a good reason to cancel her trip since it was already paid for. Once you get to Jamaica, all of your problems will dissappear and you can focus on you and your fi. In the end that's all that matters, right?

[2bebridejamaica]

Thanks so much guys!!!!

 

It's still really hard this morning to think about espec with a nice hangover from my bottle of Reisling and the fact that fire dept was here this morning at work when I showed up... we had a glitch in the fire alarm system. When my boss it not here and I am ... I need to work on finding out which zone it could be in through the computer systems.. that noise was just great!!! I was so not ready for stobes and horns with a hangover!!!!!

 

As for her reason... she needs the money that she used for the trip. They are in some debt with moving into their new house and the dog they just got broke it's leg then she is having issues at work. It's like a bad country music song.. and I like country. I am not happy with her reasoning since well I thought that I could count on her and it's paid for.

 

I'm going to attempt to talk with her at some point today, since I couldn't say anything yesterday to her.... I was just "hmmm" "ok" "that sucks" What else could I say

[Hartyt509]

What you say is i'm really disappointed but really its you that is missing out and leave it at that. If you want to keep the friendship that is. If it was me i'd tell her to fuck right off and smack her one lol

 

Just think of it this way - it would have been nice but they aren't essential and you will have all the memories and they will have regrets cause trust me they will lol

 

Chin up it will be fab - at least you lilke your inlaws I can't stand mine and want to drown her in the pool lol