My FI is coming home!!!!!!!

[loveangel0610]

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Originally Posted by kerryjbrown Oh my....I just read this thread for the first time. I am so sorry for what you have been through over the past week, I cannot even imagine how upset you are. I hope your call today went well and there was a reasonable explanation for his lack of communication (not sure there could be one unless he was hurt and I don't wish that for you!) We are all here to support you and are wishing you the best!

You know what at first I though some thing might have happened to him. But then I thought about it wouldn't some one had called me and why would is cell still be ringing.

[luckygirl]

Seriously, you don't deserve this. I remember when my ex-husband used to come home at 5, 6 and even 10 am and I would be worried sick that something happened to him. I was just a complete lack of respect that he felt for me when he chose to act that way. You are young and have many options out there. Start thinking back to all of the various things that he has done to you that may have made your hairs stand up on end and make you think...this situation just doesn't seem right. Think about all of the things that he has not only said but have also done that would make this current behavior not so much of a surprise. Sometimes, we just don't want to hear what a person is telling us.

[EricaG]

I am so sorry that you still haven't gotten any answers from him. Whatever is going on, I am starting to wonder if his family is in one it, since they didn't answer the phone either. If this is his way of breaking things off with you, then he doesn't deserve someone as great as you. That type of behaviour goes back to junior high school. I think you are right on track with moving on and not worrying about him anymore. Why waste anymore time on someone that obviously doesn't care?! If and when he ever calls, you can talk to him if you are at home, tell him how you felt and officially end the relationship.

[Yari]

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Originally Posted by EricaG I am so sorry that you still haven't gotten any answers from him. Whatever is going on, I am starting to wonder if his family is in one it, since they didn't answer the phone either. If this is his way of breaking things off with you, then he doesn't deserve someone as great as you. That type of behaviour goes back to junior high school. I think you are right on track with moving on and not worrying about him anymore. Why waste anymore time on someone that obviously doesn't care?! If and when he ever calls, you can talk to him if you are at home, tell him how you felt and officially end the relationship.

I never thought about it this way, but it makes so much sense. Do you think he is trying to break it off?

[loveangel0610]

Sorry ladies I meant to post an update earlier but I got a little busy (family coming in from out of town) but I finally talked to him. My cell phone had been cut off last week and I paid the bill this morning. So about 11 this morning my phone rings and just guess who it is my FI. I answered the phone calmy I had to take a few deep breaths because I was about to let him have it. So I asked him why haven't you called be this past week. I was expecting him to get quiet or flip it back on me but he didn't. So here's the story FI has a prepaid cellphone and he ran out of minutes. At first I didn't believe him so I checked his story. I went on verizon.com and checked his account and he ran out minutes the day I last spoke with him. So then I said well why didn't you call me on the house phone and his parents don't have long distance. Ok I can understand that. So I gave him option number three. I know his mom, dad, and sisters have cellphones why didn't you use one of them. And he got quiet and then said I wasn't thinking. That's when I got loud hehe. I said no you weren't thinking. Oh I let him have it. I said do you know what I've been through this past week. No you wouldn't because you haven't called me. So I finally calmed down and by now I was in tears. And he apologized for not calling me and said what can I do to make it up to you. That's when I got quiet. At first I said nothing. Then I thought about it and we'll talk about that later. So before I got off the phone I asked why didn't any one the house phone last night he said he was at work so he doesn't know. I'm going to get the bottom of that one later. So he's supposed to call me later so we can finish the conversation because he had to go back to work.

 

So there it is ladies I finally got my phone call. It didn't go exactly how I wanted it to go. I would have liked to have gotten out a little bit more but there wasn't enough time. So tonight I'm going to get out every thing. No stone will go unturned. I don't know how this is going to end tonight but I'm hoping that it goes ok.

 

Sorry it's so long.

[*Heather*]

I'm glad you finally talked to him. Did he say when he's going to come home?

[Yari]

I am happy to hear that you heard from him, but I have some questions...

1. Where do his parents live? Is it far?
2. Is this job new?
3. Has he always lived with his parents?
4. Do you really believe him?
5. Are you willing to make it work?
6. When will you see him again?

[loveangel0610]

I put the answers in pink

 

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Originally Posted by Yari I am happy to hear that you heard from him, but I have some questions... Where do his parents live? Is it far? Akron and it's about 2 hours from here Is this job new?Yes Has he always lived with his parents?No this is the first time in 5 years Do you really believe him?Yes I do Are you willing to make it work?Right now I don't know. I need some time to think. When will you see him again?I'll find out later. We didn't talk about that earlier. My focus was telling him off.

[Yari]

So he went to culinary school for 4 months and now he is back. Why did he move in with his parents instead of where he lived prior? You two are planning on moving to Atlanta soon. Is it for a job, school?

 

Sorry I am asking so many questions, I am just trying to give you the best advice.

[EricaG]

I am glad that you finally heard from him and that you were able to get a bit of stuff of your chest. Hopefully the conversation later will get the rest taken care of. Just becareful and make sure that he isn't taking you for a ride. There is always a way that he could have called you. If his parents don't have long distance, he could have called collect.

Now that he has a job there, does that mean that he is staying there? Why get a job there if he was coming back home? Or is he wanting you to move? I think the two of you really need to talk about a lot of things and get stuff sorted out before you make any permanent decisions. Take care and let us know how things work out for you. Remember, if you need anyone else to talk to, we are always here!!