I am having some difficulty in figuring out what I should do for my wedding shower. When I got engaged I had just started college a week prior and we sent out our invitations within a month of getting engaged as we wanted to give our families as much notice as we could. I did not give any friends at school an invitation as I did not know them well enough and was worried about what they would think of me asking them to fork out all this money for someone they barely knew to go to their wedding. The same goes with my work friends (I have a part time job while I am in school) I was not very close with any of them at the time I got engaged. I have since talked to my school friends and told them how I was unsure of what they would have thought if I had given them an invitation and they were all very understanding and told me that they completly understood and would not have been able to make it regardless. They are planning a bachelorette day for me which is so sweet of them!
I have gotten a lot closer with certain people at school and at work over the past few months, and now I feel as though we have great friendships. It is about the time where people have been asking me about my wedding shower and encouraging me to let them know what I would like and who I would like to be there. This is giving me such great anxiety because I feel as though I want to invite my newfound friends but I have done some research online as for "what is exceptable" and I have basically found that if someone is not invited to your destination wedding they should not be invited to the wedding shower". I completely see where they are coming from as it would seem like a "gift grab". At the same time now that these are my closer friends (pretty much the closest in my life right now) I don't want them to feel like I have chosen to leave them out of this as well plus I really only have a few friends from highschool and I wouldn't be surprised if they didn't come as we are not that close anymore.
One more problem is that my aunts seem to be feuding with my mom and sisters over stuff that I have chosen to stay out of. I even invited the whole extended family to Christmas dinner and those aunts and uncles chose not to come as they didn't want to be around my mom and sisters. I think that they all went back and fourth bad talking each other and accusing each other of different things that I chose to completly not have a say in. This really makes me feel like they will not come to my wedding shower, because of course my mom and sisters will be there. I hate to make this sound like a pity party but lets be realistic--this is my nightmare--no one even shows up to this shower and believe me I am really feeling like this will happen.
I need your advise on what I should do. Am I facing things that other people are too? Any insight is helpful