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#1 ericaandsy

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    Posted 19 August 2008 - 10:53 PM

    I'm nervous posting this, because my situation/question has to do with Religion. I know that this is a topic that many people don't prefer to discuss with others. I am in NO WAY trying to offend anyone by posting this! And if this is not allowed, Mods feel free to erase my post. BUT I have a question regarding having our catholic ceremony at our resort.

    Here is my situation. I am catholic and have never been married before.
    My FI however is Buddhist, and has been divorced for 5 years. He was previously married in a Catholic church.

    My Mom insists that if we were to marry in a Catholic church, that my FI needs to have his previous marriage ANNULHED by the Catholic Church. AND that we would need to meet with the priest who marries us to discuss the situation. I have contacted a few people from my parents church, and I have not heard back yet.

    So I wonder how the heck am I going to pull that off I figure we will not find out who our priest is for our ceremony until we arrive at our resort. AND I'm sure he/she will be busy with other ceremonies!! I am just frustrated that this situation has become complicated! I contacted my WC weeks ago to see if we could get the contact information for who is going to do our ceremony, and my question was ignorored.

    Has anyone here been in this type of situation?
    Thank you for listening!

    #2 Kelly C

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      Posted 19 August 2008 - 11:08 PM

      Yes his marriage will have to be unalled. You do have alittle over a year, but it takes sometime, sometimes a long time to have it done. You have to petition his exwife and wait for her answers. We have been advised by our deacon to go get married and come back and do the paper work and have the marrage blessed.
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      #3 tvt

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        Posted 20 August 2008 - 12:40 AM

        Oh man, I have no words of wisdom at all, but sorry you have to deal with this!

        #4 S2BLennon

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          Posted 20 August 2008 - 03:09 AM

          Well I was in a similiar situation until I was able to inform my Fil's that Iwas still a good person if I was not annulled. I was married for a little under 2 years about 5 years ago. It was horrible and abusive, and I would love to have an annulment due to my FI having his first wedding w/ me.... But it is a long drawn out expensive process, and it may not even be granted to you after all that work.
          It Sucks really.
          Your FI would have to file for the annulment with the district the church is in where he was married before. And then once all the letters and paperwork is recieved and filed it will go before a panel of priests/ judges to start reviewing and asking questions. They will inform his Ex and ask if she wants to add any input. They also ask for 2 witness reports. And he has to prove that the marriage was not right to begin with. There are a ton of stipulations.

          Needless to say you can't contact the DW WC for this info/ any random priest that you want to marry you. It has to go to the head priest of the district he was married in.

          Hope this helps- sorry to be a downer!

          #5 becks



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            Posted 20 August 2008 - 09:42 AM

            I'm in a similar situation - my DH was previously married. He's catholic; I'm presbyterian. So, from the perspective of my church, it's no big deal. But it is a big deal for him. We did a civil ceremony here in town to make it legal, and then we had a religous (not catholic, but non-denominational protestant) ceremony in Mexico. It was beautiful, but it you're wanting a proper catholic wedding, I don't know if you'll get it short of having his previous marriage annulled.

            I wish you the best of luck!

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            #6 RaydensMama

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              Posted 20 August 2008 - 11:38 AM

              Wow, I am of zero help here, but it looks like you are getting alot of good help! I hope it all works out for you though!!

              #7 Hartyt509

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                Posted 20 August 2008 - 03:53 PM

                That might be really tricky, expensive and still might not get the annulment. I know if I asked my ex for one I'd get a barrage of abuse. Does he not have to convert as well? not sure know more about buddhism than catholic stuff.

                Do you have to have a catholic ceremony i like becks solution

                #8 Kristy!


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                  Posted 20 August 2008 - 03:57 PM

                  I know nothing about this as I am not Catholic, but I just wanted to tell you not to be afraid to post on this forum. We're all here to help in any situation!

                  You'll find the right solution for you both. Best of luck to you!

                  #9 Jenn

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                    Posted 20 August 2008 - 06:18 PM

                    I'm Jewish, so no help here, but the marriage blessing question definitely went around before... I didn't go through the whole thread again, but there may be some helpful info here:


                    #10 Davematthews16

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                      Posted 20 August 2008 - 06:33 PM

                      Well, I'm not Catholic, but I don't understand how they would ever know if he had been married in a Catholic Church before? I mean it's been 5 years, and that's all in the past right? Can't you just pretend that he's never been married and get married in the Church again? Sorry I don't know more

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