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It's great of you to give the girls an update. This is a common problem and I wonder how many brides going through the exact same thing would have given up if not for this reminder that some things "just have a way of working themselves out". Don't give up ladies, and remember, your wedding is about you and the love and commitment you have with your FI. It's not about making everybody else happy, which is impossible to do anyway.

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Glad I saw this thread today, I am experiencing the same issue, people are dropping like flies. But me and FI talked and we have the attitude, that as long as we are there, that is all that matters.

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I too have been experiencing this same stress of people originally saying yes and yet, still have not booked with only 3 months left to go. However, when FI and I talked about it, we decided that it didn't matter if the people who said they would come don't end up booking because we might actually enjoy it more if less people are there, less to worry about and more time to spend with the ones who do actually end up coming.

For me, the frustration is not actually people saying they would come and then backing out, it's the frustration that I can't plan anything (oots bags, deocrations, etc), until I have a final count, and I have a lot of people who keep saying they want to come and are "moving heaven and earth" to come, yet still haven't booked. I have a hard time believing that if they are coming, they have yet to book. I keep telling them too that the resort is not huge and they may not be able to get a room if they wait too long, but I think they are just denying the inevitable, or don't want to disappoint me by saying no, but I would rather they just tell me they can't come, then leave me in limbo where I can't plan anything because they "may or may not" book!!! ARRGHH!! Sorry ladies, that was my little vent for the day!

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I wish I had found this thread a few months ago when I was down in the dumps, but nonetheless everyone is right. Everything works itself out in the end. I started with 11 definites and now around 30 booked! Time heals all wounds, helps people save, calms the worriers and most of all time sorts it all out! I'm glad things worked out for you Cougs! As I am sure it will for so many of us on here.

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I wish I had found this thread a few months ago when I was down in the dumps, but nonetheless everyone is right. Everything works itself out in the end. I started with 11 definites and now around 30 booked! Time heals all wounds, helps people save, calms the worriers and most of all time sorts it all out! I'm glad things worked out for you Cougs! As I am sure it will for so many of us on here.
See my date is the same (about as yours) and so far I am sitting at 11, and thats only emmediate family + us. Honestly, I am glad that I saw this thread, but FH said no freaking way we are doing Mexico, I was leaning towards just the two of us, or emmediate family and a Hawaiin waterfall. But no, friends were like we will be there 100% lets find something CAD 1,500 ball park. Then oh yeah we want kids, then oh yeah lets have this.... needless to say about 1-2 months of allot of sleepless nights and some tears we settled on a resort. We invited about 100, and expect atleast half to come based on them saying that they would. We then were going to help everyone and book a family friendly resort and pay for a guest pass for a day, all USD 100 per for 50 people! so that we could have our wedding at the location we wanted and the resort that met their needs.

Now that is just 11 people who would have went anywhere, I am really really regretting our decision to have in Mexico. Unfortinuetly we already paid some CAD 6K for our two weeks in Mexico, and 11 others are all paid up. Photographer has a very substantial deposit etc. honestly though if less than 40 show up I am going to loose my mind! Thanks for having a place to vent I just honestly dont know what to do anymore!

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I'm new here..was searching for so.e friendly advice. My wedding is in 3 weeks. No one is coming. No friends, no family, just my fiance and I. I've been going back and forth with my feelings and I try not to let him see how hurt I am over this. He doesn't care, he's marrying me and that's all that matters. I can't help but feel like everyone let me down. I show up for all graduations, ceremonies, parties, bon fire's, holidays. .you name it I'm there. No one has called, I went dress shopping with a co-worker. Lol...who I invited because she's been a good friend through this. I'm bummed during a time I should exude joy. I'm marrying the man of my dreams. Sorry just needed someplace to vent.

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I'm new here..was searching for so.e friendly advice. My wedding is in 3 weeks. No one is coming. No friends, no family, just my fiance and I. I've been going back and forth with my feelings and I try not to let him see how hurt I am over this. He doesn't care, he's marrying me and that's all that matters. I can't help but feel like everyone let me down. I show up for all graduations, ceremonies, parties, bon fire's, holidays. .you name it I'm there. No one has called, I went dress shopping with a co-worker. Lol...who I invited because she's been a good friend through this. I'm bummed during a time I should exude joy. I'm marrying the man of my dreams. Sorry just needed someplace to vent.

So sorry to hear this.... Where are you getting married? Were your family/friends originally supportive of the idea of a DW and then never came through for you? Did it come as a surprise? How many did you originally invite? Is your family normally close but this important event has left you disappointed in their lack of support? Are you having a AHR? I hope you and your FI make this a magical moment for just the two of you- to immerse yourselves in one another and completely soak up the alone time and the most important moment between the two of you. No one else matters but the two of you.

You will have a romantic amazing moment becoming husband and wife!

 

 

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I'm so sorry to hear about your hurt, you should be happy in this time. So many people get married on their own and make it really special because it's just about them and what they want. Think about an AHR if you can and hopefully they show for that. If not, time to rethink your priorities I would say moving forward IMO. Just my two cents

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Thanks I am getting married 10/20/14 in Grand Turks. This was no surprise wedding. We planned for a year. My family is near Chicago and I'm 3 hours away. My family is not as close as I'd like. But I expected at the least mom, dad, brother sister on both sides of the family. His family is in an uproar because they can't afford to go. But everyone had plenty of time to plan and budget. Friends - that's a whole mess. One minute they're going the next someone has a football game, you've decided 3 weeks prior to my wedding you're taking your kids on a different vacation. Hmm...I appreciate the feedback. And you're absolutely right. We will spend this time together and nothing else matters. Thanks guys. I should've come here a long time ago.

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