little by little, no one is coming ... i give up!

[vlynnw]

I'm really sorry you're going through this, I haven't gotten that far yet but I'm already worrying about my family not coming. My dad has pretty much told everyone he refuses to go to Mexico, and my sister keeps trying to talk me out of it. Hopefully your guests will change their minds and remember how important it is that they are there for your big-day. If finances are their biggest complaint maybe check with some other accommodation options close to the resort still in an all-inclusive that may have a $$ appeal to them.

[cougs]

i agree, this is something that SO many dw brides go through, and there is a lot of valuable advice in this thread. thanks for bumping it!

 

that said, wow it is so weird for me to see this old post resurface (because i'm the original poster)! i am now happily married and it actually turned out that pretty much everyone ended up coming (all the important family at least)! it was crazy because we ended up with 33 people despite all the early drama (and even despite the swine flu!). back when i posted this thread, i would have never imagined our wedding could turn out the way it did.

 

not everyone is as fortunate. sometimes, lots of people bail on you for real. all you can do is resolve to cherish those who DO come! the rest are missing out and that's their bad!

[Jenn&Kraig]

I feel for ya!

 

We are going in with the attitude that no one but our parents will come, anything more is a bonus! All that matters is that you and your soon to be husband are doing what you both want, you can always celebrate with everyone who couldn't make it when you get back home!!

 

Hope things work out for you guys!!

[Jenn&Kraig]

Oops!! I didnt read your wedding date when I wrote my post! lol You are already married, Sorry!!

 

Sounds like it all went well though!! Glad to hear that

[michelle6114]

Girl I feel your pain. When we started planning this a year ago, we had about 20 people claim they were coming. We even picked the resort and location based on the guest list (6 small children)

Now that the final count is nearly in (6 adults and NO small children) I wished we had planned it in Hawaii, like I wanted. But all those traveling balked at the 12 hr flight.

The absolute worst is my FSIL who's husband makes over 150k a year, has been on 4 vacations since we announced this destination wedding a year ago. She has decided she "can't afford it" and now will miss her ony siblings wedding. If only they realized how stupid they look posting on facebook how their latest purchases, vacations, cars ect...cost $$$$. What a joke!

[josee]

Quote:

Originally Posted by beachbride08 I don't think there has been a bride on here that this has not happened to, me included. I think you should move ahead with your plans and have your DW regardless of who comes. I didn't look at your wedding date, but you never know who may book closer to the date. If you have a wedding at home you are still going to deal with the same bs from people. They don't like the hall, the food, the date. You can't please everyone and this is your day so the only people you should be pleasing are yourself and your FI.

I agree only think about yourself and your FI!!

[peterpanpixiedust]

I'm glad it turned out too!

[islandbride317]

I know this post is old, but to anyone new reading this and going through something similar, it might give a real sense of encouragement....plus, I'm going through it, too!

 

We never had illusions about having a really large number of guest joining us, but we sent out about 50 invitations anyway (some to people who we already knew were not going to be coming just to keep up appearances and be polite), and as it appears, we will only have 10 guests total joining us -- could be worse though, right?

 

The only must-attend guests in my mind from the start were both sets of our parents, and they were right along with us when we booked, so after that, everyone else was a blessing! We just keep having to reminding ourselves that those that can't attend our wedding in Jamaica will be there to celebrate with us when we have our AHR 3 months after we return!

[jplovesme]

Thanks for bumping this thread! That's what we were thinking too. Our guest list is about 60 people long, but we're just hoping our parents make it. With the economy, more friends getting laid off, and new pregnancies, I'm undestimating for now...

 

But I am sure no matter how many people attend your wedding in May, it will be wonderful!

[march132010]

Wow this is a good thread, We started out with 60 people and now we have 26 faithful..... but its a good group that is and they are who are ment to be with us on our day!!!