"friend" vent

[Debs]

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Originally Posted by mgreen I don't know what to think of your friend melissa. I wouldn't take it personally if she's not that close of freind. I don't think some people take the RSVP thing serious enough for a DW. I'm not counting anyone as a guest until they buy thei package...

I totally agree with that one. We have tons of people saying "OMG I so want to go"

Well want to go and putting down the cash are two totally different things. Show me the money LOL

[MikkiStreak]

Does she seem very social or outgoing with many people? If you've been out after work as just the 2 of you, maybe it's that she feels more comfortable with you than the other people who will be there, but knows your attention is going to be divided among everyone and she'll have to socialize more with other people. I know people who come across like they are really sociable and easy-going, but they get too tense/nervous when it comes to a social setting where they have to mingle instead of just hanging out with 1-2 people all night...

 

I'd probably say something to her, simply because I'd be curious about it.

[BEACHBRIDEMA]

Hey Melissa

Dont take it personally, maybe she just feels weird comming. Does she know other people that are there? Maybe she would feel left out or something? Thats is really rude though and I would be kind of pissed. If she has not intentions on comming she should have just been honest in the first place. I probably would not say anything, especially if shes not that close of a friend, it just may make things awkward. I would just not invite her to anything else in the future. Her loss I am sure she is missing out on a great time!

Hope this helps!

Sarah

[Jen]

One of my "best friends" is like this.....I actually still consider her my best friend, although I'm not sure why after she continues to do this....BUT, I know that she has some issues and she often times has trouble being happy for others when she is not in a good place in her personal life. She blew off my high school graduation party and my college graduation party so I ended up having my Grad school graduation party AT her house so she couldn't blow it off!!! I'm not sure she'll even come to my wedding to be perfectly honest and that sucks but it wouldn't be out of character. Not good friend behavior, but its who she is and has been ever since I've known her (about 12 years!). Maybe this girl just has a hard time not being the center of attention or celebrating other peoples happiness.....I don't know.....but its always a possibility

[MelissaH]

Thanks girls - I think I'll try to talk to her and see if there's anything wrong because she's a total people person, she loves to go out and have a good time whether she knows people or not. I understand not coming to the wedding because of the money factor but my engagement party and bachelorette were totally covered

[BarefootBride]

Sounds like me most of my life.... not easy to admit...

I am thinking that her intentions are good but she just cant never come through because of other priorities... you really dont know what other people are going through in their lives. I would say, continue being work friends but let her plan anything outside of work... Im sure you have other friends.

Ive learned that all friends arent for the same things... you know, you have that friend to have wild crazy intoxicating party nights with, one to just talk about relationship problems, one to just go out to dinner, one to double date with, etc...

They are all friends but just in a different way.

[BarefootBride]

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Originally Posted by Jen One of my "best friends" is like this.....I actually still consider her my best friend, although I'm not sure why after she continues to do this....BUT, I know that she has some issues and she often times has trouble being happy for others when she is not in a good place in her personal life.

OMG I was this girl!!! I had a sucky life...family sucked...finances sucked... I was pretty much alone... So instead of moping around and people having pitty for me and being sad, I just stayed away from people. I didnt want my problems to become theirs. It wasnt that I couldnt be happy for others I just wasnt interested in other peoples life... I had to get my sh+* together...

During my bestfriends wedding, I was a BM and my sorry butt showed up and left early because I had stayed up all night with the Bestman! Oh I was such a whore!

[Alyssa]

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Originally Posted by BarefootBride Sounds like me most of my life.... not easy to admit... I am thinking that her intentions are good but she just cant never come through because of other priorities... you really dont know what other people are going through in their lives. I would say, continue being work friends but let her plan anything outside of work... Im sure you have other friends. Ive learned that all friends arent for the same things... you know, you have that friend to have wild crazy intoxicating party nights with, one to just talk about relationship problems, one to just go out to dinner, one to double date with, etc... They are all friends but just in a different way.

hey barefoot bride!

please make sure to read the date of the last post before reviving these old chat threads - Melissa last posted here 1 year ago.

thanks,
alyssa

[Sandra E.]

Why don't you talk to her and find out if she's ok. If she seems indifferent and acts like it's not a big deal, then move on and don't make her part of your personal life anymore.