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Guest List A/B/C

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#1 MikkiStreak

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    Posted 02 March 2007 - 05:51 PM

    Hey, I read in some magazine advising brides to create a guest list and mark each person A/B/C, which indicates rounds of invites going out in order to prioritize and keep guest list/cost under control.

    Anyone done this? Exactly how did you implement it (ie, different response due dates, sending out round B as you received no's for A's)?

    #2 A10CalGal

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      Posted 02 March 2007 - 05:54 PM

      Wow, that sounds complicated, but probably a good idea if you feel like you guest list is huge. I would imagine you prioritize each guest - A being most important can't live without guests; B being the guests you'd like to have but won't die without & C being the "courtesy" invites. Then you could send invites out in waves with early RSVP's for the A's & so on. Then you would only send out C invites if you have room in light of the prior RSVP's. Sounds hard to manage though - cuz a lot of ppl don't RSVP on time...

      #3 TammyB

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        Posted 02 March 2007 - 05:55 PM

        don't know if I understand. I just used the knot's planning page, listed all our guests and if they responded yes or no and how many people were going to attend.

        #4 CourtneyV

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          Posted 02 March 2007 - 06:00 PM

          Sorry, this doesn't answer your question at all but I remembered this when I read your post...

          I've heard of brides numbering the back of their invites in pencil (lightly) - this comes in handy in case some of your guests have chicken scratch for writing, you don't have to struggle to find out who wrote it - you can identify it by the numbered card (remember to keep a list of what # went to which guest). I thought this was a great idea, especially if you have a longer guest list!!

          Sorry that I didn't answer your question though!! :|
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          #5 destinationbride07

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            Posted 02 March 2007 - 06:05 PM

            I have never heard of it…y rounds……. I am curious to know...i wonder would each round have a different rsvp by date…

            #6 KellyandMatt08

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              Posted 02 March 2007 - 06:07 PM

              I'm not sure how this would work if you are planning on sending STDs.

              #7 jpkw

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                Posted 02 March 2007 - 06:21 PM

                I have an A list and a B list for my guest list. We sent STDs to only the A list people. We have found out that some of the A's cannot make it so now when we send out our official invites, I am moving some of the B people up to be A's and they are all getting invitations. The B people that we are now inviting did not get STDs but oh well. I don't really expect them to come to the wedding, but I'm inviting them more as a courtesy (and if any of them do accept, at least we'll have the room since some of the A's canot make it). (we also still have some people on the B list that won't get invited at all)

                After we sent out the STDs we found out right away that some people couldn't make it, so we sent out a few more STDs to some of the B people right away.

                Does this make any sense??

                Our original guest list was HUGE, so we had to try to limit it somehow. My FI is friends with way too many people. For friend invites, we made a rule that the person had to either be in your cell phone or it had to be a person that we would do something with one-on-one (not just with a group), that's why we really had to go with the A/B rating.

                #8 MikkiStreak

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                  Posted 02 March 2007 - 06:36 PM

                  That's kind of how I thought this article was specifying it should work. The only thing they weren't clear on was whether you adjust your RSVP dates based on which round of invites you're sending out...

                  I wouldn't think too many DW brides would use this because so many DW's have much smaller guest lists. But I can see where it would be beneficial for AHW/AHR for a lot of people. Heck, if we did something at home, we have about 500-600 people on his side of the family and I have about 200 on mine, without even counting friends.... (Thank GOD! we are doing a DW!!!!)

                  #9 Christine

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                  Posted 02 March 2007 - 08:02 PM

                  Miki, I think this would be something to do for a wedding that has limited space. I would say to be careful about not sending out invites to certain people, what if they find out. My family would for sure.
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                  #10 *JillD*

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                    Posted 02 March 2007 - 10:37 PM

                    Yes, I think this is used if you only want or can accomodate a certain amount of people and then once you know a certain amount of people aren't coming you can send out more.

                    I would also be worried about some people finding out that they were on the B list.

                    I guess it depends on your family & friends, but we knew with a DW that we wouldn't have too many people. We would actually be really excited if a lot of our guests did come, but we know it will only be about 20-25 because of all the things everyone has going on in their lives, not everyone can come.

                    I guess if you are planning to still invite most of your guest list, which sounds like a lot, and you don't want that many people then this may be a good option for you.

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