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What traditions are you NOT doing? (poll borrowed from TK)

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Originally Posted by JHarwood2Be View Post
Which song is it, if you don't mind me asking?
I think getting boozed is pretty much traditional...friday.gif
Hehe, yeah I guess getting plastered is nothing new cheesy.gif
As for my aisle song - Star of Bethleham (instrumental) leading into True Love. They're both on A&A's IEmpire. Im a geek, but I love that song.

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For those of you not doing all the traditional stuff, are you doing something in exchange? (like for the garter/flower toss?) Do you have new things you will do?

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I love this thread!


We are including the following traditions:

-he asked my Dad before he proposed

-engagement party

-Formal invitations but island themed!

-bridal shower

-Jordan almonds to represent: ITALIAN WEDDINGS Five almonds signify five wishes for the bride and groom: health, wealth, happiness, fertility, and longevity. These almonds decorate each place setting as favors, tucked into pretty boxes or tulle bags called *bomboniere* that are often personalized with the couple's names and wedding date.

-Dad will give me away

-1st dance

-me and Dad, him w/Godmother(his mom is deceased) dance

-will sleep apart and not see each other until ceremony

-gifts for my parents who are the hosts


We will not do the following traditions:

-have the big NY/NJ Italian wedding with 500 people we had to invite out of obligation at $200 per person!

-limos, church, programs

-no kids invited

-rehearsal dinner-having a welcome party instead for everyone

-we have a Maid of Honor and a bridesmaid and that's it. FH had a Best man and groomsman both were asked to step down now he will stand up for himself.

-gifts to eachother

-going on honeymoon 3 months after wedding.

- bouquet/garter tosses

-stupid song/dances aka chicken dance

-traditional processional music, I'm picking fun stuff

-private sit down dinner


I saw mentions of the dollar dance and the kidnapping the bride, I have been to weddings in the south and midwest and I love these traditions. I always tell FH that those weddings are soo much more fun than the stuffy affairs we have here. Here it is always about what you spend and not really personal at all. I'm gonna try to sneak a grooms cake in too.


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This thread is a lot of fun but I would love to hear what unique things people are doing instead of these traditional things...



- No paper mailed invitations (all done through email)

- No shopping for wedding dress with g/f's (did it on my own)

- Lived with FI for 3 years before wedding

- Bridal party consists of two BM for bride and one GW (groomswoman) for groom

- DW - none else in my family has done that!

- No ring bearer or flower girl

- No traditional suit for the groom (linen pants and shirt)

- No rehearsal dinner (everyone will just meet for a unformal dinner

- No garter or bouquet toss (mostly b/c everyone coming is hitched

- No bridal shower/engagement party/stag or stagette outings

- No gifts

- No program

- No religion



I am sure there is more....there are just so many traditions that go along with weddings...I just really want to know any unique things people are doing instead!

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* My Mom and Dad are walking me down the aisle (not sure about the whole giving away thing)

* Groom's mom is walking him down the aisle

* No wedding party

* No "wedding dress"...I'll be getting a sundress

* No ring exchange

* We are adding a lei exchange

* In memory of groom's dad we will be throwing a lei into the ocean during the beach ceremony

* No shoes

* Dinner afterwards- no traditional reception

* BBQ party when we return

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I reached out to my biological dad's family and reconnected with aunts and cousins I hadn't see in 14 years. (talk about add water instant family)

We dis invited a groomsmen which resulted in major conflict among our friends but forced us to see what really matters

My MOH threw my engagement party

MOB is throwing me a bridal shower and inviting people who I didn't invite to my wedding (they couldn't care less that they weren't invited)

Groom and l lived together for 4 years before we were married

Groom and I will sleep together the night before the wedding (why would I be uncomfortable and sleep without him)

Groom and I will see each other before the wedding and have that special moment

Mom and step dad are walking me down the aisle

Instead of a bouquet toss I will give my bouquet to the longest married couple at my wedding

Were going to wrap the garter around a water gun and give it to our single guy friend who is a gun enthusiast

Our first dance will turn into a boogie number!

All of our pictures will be non posed

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Here's ours:


  • we'll spend the night together before the wedding (we'll have lived together for six years, it seems silly to us not too)
  • no bouquet/ garter toss
  • no religion
  • one MOH, one BM
  • no programs
  • no readings or songs during ceremony (we'll just have the Cuban trio play for the processional and recessional)
  • not changing my name

I think we may have the traditional dances, but we're still deciding that. We basically want an fun, easy ceremony and reception without too many scheduled things happening. I do really want to do a cake cutting, but we wont smear the cake all over each other.

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Destination wedding

No name change

No bridal party

No ring bearer or flower girl

No bouquet/garter toss

No dancing

We're staying together the night before

We plan to walk-in and down the aisle together

No readings or songs during the ceremony

No invitations (STD and email only)

No engagement party, bachelor party or bachelorette party

No gifts

I also shopped for my dress without assistance.

Ivory dress without a veil

We're doing our own thing with the music including a rap song or two :)

No extended family beyond my parent's siblings (gave in to parents on this one!)

Spiritual not religious ceremony

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