So stressed about money for wedding
Posted 13 August 2008 - 06:27 PM
I always thought that we would have to 'help' FH's parents out with part of their trip. His mom and I do NOT get along, she refuses to work and even after she had to get a job (they needed the money), she's constantly going on medical EI and not working. She makes rude little comments all the time (even telling our best man that FH was making a mistake in marrying me) and just bugs me in general. Apparently she was like this with FBIL's wife. I guess she hates you until there's a 'new' wife to hate. So if anyone want to marry younger FBIL, please do so soon so she can stop hating me! lol. Anyway, I thought by help we would be paying a couple hundred bucks. Whatever. FFIL means the world to FH so I'm okay with that. When it came time to pay the deposit ($150pp), we paid it for both of them. And now I find out that my 'help' we're paying for their entire trip. Once you minus the deposit, the balance owing is $2254.50. And it's due in under a month so that's another two grand to add to the budget.
So I'm already stressed over having to pay this, when I get an email from our photographer. It's a husband/wife team - my sister is a professional photographer who reads the husband's blog so she's really excited about the chance to meet him so we specifically hired him. There's no difference in the pictures, I can't tell one that the husband took from one that the wife took. It's just he's the famous one because of the blog. Anyway, my sister was so excited that she's helping pay for our TTD. So, yesterday the husband sends me an email saying he's going to be stuck in the states during the day we booked him so the wife will be shooting our TTD instead. Which is fine from a photography standpoint, it's just my sister was helping us because she wanted to meet the husband. Now that he won't be there, I can't accept her money. So now I have to come up with another two grand because he's stuck in the states.
So within a week, I've had our expenses go up by 4 grand. None of which we have so it will all be getting put on a credit card. I just....I feel so stressed out that my stomach feels like one giant knot.
Posted 13 August 2008 - 06:32 PM
I think I'd be telling FMIL to get her hand in her pocket and that helping out doesn't mean you are paying for everything the lazy cow. She wants to be grateful i'm not the future DIL i'd break her lmao
Speak to your sister she probably will still want to help you out.
Posted 13 August 2008 - 06:47 PM
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Posted 13 August 2008 - 09:52 PM
Your sister might still help you out with the photographer. Maybe it could be her wedding gift to you??
Good luck. I have a hard time dealing with my FMIL and FFIL as well, I know how hard it can make life.
Posted 13 August 2008 - 10:13 PM
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Posted 13 August 2008 - 11:03 PM
Maybe you can just pay for his dad and then if she wants to come, she can fork over her own stupid cash. Or not buy a f**** couch. GEEZE!
Some of our friends are super broke and they just told us they "need to get away" (they're about to move to a different city) so they're going out west for a week. WTF? I"m sure they won't come to our DW, but seriously. Don't talk to us about how you're spending your money!!!
Your FI needs to tell them that it's not all free.
It's not fair for you to start your married life together with a huge debt b/c of his parents.
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