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No! You're not a grinch, and I 100% know where you're coming from!! Before we decided to do a DW we were planning a wedding here (hall booked and everything). Our guest list was at 260 people and there was no way to cut it down (my mom has 12 siblings and I have over 40 first cousins). With having a DW we kept the invite list the same but are only expecting 30-50 guests instead of the 180-200 we were expecting had we gotten married here. (and it's SIGNIFICANLY cheaper to get married in Mexico than in NY or NJ!). Basically, the people we never see are not going to go to Mexcio, but they would come if we got married here.

I wonder if that's part of the reason we don't mind so much lol

Dez, that's EXACTLY why we decided destination wedding. Average wedding in Seattle is about 30k... the cheapest estimate I could get was 25, and that was really cutting corners in areas I didn't want to cut. He has such a HUGE family... and they are ALL local... we'd have 350 on the invite list and MOST of them would show up. People (ie, my dad) kept telling me to "cut the guest list" and I kept asking which one of his brother's he didnt want me to invite.

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We are a more the merrier as long as we know you kind of couple....I didn't want strangers attending our wedding because it is important that everyone attending the wedding is a special person in our lives in one way or another. We are happy to other people book on the trip that we don't know, but I wouldn't feel comfortable with them at our wedding...but then again, we are generally pretty private people. We just recently had one person who just booked that was not sent an invite but knows my FI from when he was in diapers. She told his mom that she wanted to come to 'his' wedding....(her words, not mine) and my FMIL okayed it and said she could book. To be honest, this lady kind of scares me, but I am prepared to get bridezilla on her if she tries to push anyone around...She did it to me once before and it was not appreciated.... Anyways, I don't think she would try anything on the day, but she is just a crude and rough woman that I am totally not thrilled to be hosting....Oh well, we'll see how it goes...

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If your weird so are we. One of my girlfriends little sister and hubby are coming. I do know them just not the hubby very well. We like the more the merrier. And we are also having a get together before we leave and they are invited.

 

Its really not a problem as far as expense with the AI and the Semi private reception. And we only have one planned activity for everyone.

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Wow, thank you ladies. I really did feel like we were the odd balls out since I see so many threads about uninvited/unwanted guests.

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I should say some people at our wedding we met for the first time, i.e. guests of guests, because you can't really control who people bring. We were fine with that, but it was the people like coworkers we don't know well inviting themselves plus a date that we didn't want (and said no to).

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We have the open invitation thing happening for our wedding too. We sent out invites to those we wanted there, and then we have verbally invited several people. My parents have invited a bunch of people they know that like to travel as well, and we are fine with that. For one thing, my parents are paying for the wedding package, but as along as we don't have over 50 ppl, there is no added cost at our resort. So far we are at 20 and there are about another 10 that will be booking that got actual invites, sot there is still room for another 20 if everyone else books that is supposed too.

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