Same ceremony site as your friend?

[lulubelle]

Ok, so I have a dilema...I want to get married at the Four Seasons in Maui but one of my great friends just was married there last summer. Is that tacky? Will I look like some huge copycat? I absolutely LOVE the site and I think that is the perfect spot. Thoughts

[CourtneyV]

I don't think its tacky... but I would make sure to put my own twist on it (e.g. different colour/style flowers, centerpieces etc). Give it your own flare. You don't want to look back 10 years from now and wish you had your wedding somewhere else but didn't because of what people would think!! If you love it, go for it.

[Christine]

I would talk to your friend first just to make sure she doesn't feel weird about it, but otherwise if you make sure it's not the exact same wedding, I think it would be fine.

[JPMO]

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Originally Posted by Nini_Bride I don't think its tacky... but I would make sure to put my own twist on it (e.g. different colour/style flowers, centerpieces etc). Give it your own flare. You don't want to look back 10 years from now and wish you had your wedding somewhere else but didn't because of what people would think!! If you love it, go for it.

Definitely agree! I would talk to my friend about it as well however, I am not sure how honest she would really be.

It can be a simple as: Arranging chairs differently, constructing a chuppah instead of an arch, and of course time hosting in the evening as opposed to day.

[Debs]

I would feel honoured in a way, personally for a friend to get married at the same place I did. I guess because to me it would be a compliment that she enjoyed my wedding so much, especially if it was a super positive experience. Why risk going to an unknown hotel if her wedding was so good?

 

Definately make it your own and there should be no problems

[LCBride2007]

agreed - i'd talk to my friend. but there's a reason she chose it for her wedding, it's beautiful i'm sure! so i am sure she wouldn't blame you for wanting it for your wedding as well. if she seems weird at all, maybe look for another location - but i'd assume a good friend would be flattered to share a wedding location!

[Debs]

Plus it's not like it was yesterday, it was last year. Don't stress!! Fact is, I kind of decided on my hotel based on recommendations from people from another board, not actual people I have met! HAHA so, this is even better, IMO

[TammyWright]

i would talk to her first and she how she feels about it...personally, i wouldnt care and would be flattered if a friend got married at the same resort as me...if my parents had their way, my 2 sisters would both get married at dreams.

[Nrvsbride]

Personally I wouldn't care, I would feel happy for my friend. As I told you in your newbie thread my FI and I are dying to go to the Four Season Maui. We got engaged in the Four Seasons NYC so we kind of want to hit up all the Four Seasons around the world. I can certainly understand why you would want to do it there. But honestly, most girls are weird about these kinds of things. Even if you speak to her, she may not be honest with you about how she really feels. She may feel that her wedding was different and unique and now if you have your wedding there you may be taking a part of that away from her. Sorry if I sound mean but since you asked I am being honest. I would def talk to her and see how she feels before you proceed with your plans. Hopefully she won't care and you can have your fabulous Four Seasons Wedding!!

 

-Glenda