| Originally Posted by 2bebridejamaica |
Awww Kathi I LUV U!! It has been nuts and I just don't get it. This really was a learning process because I realize that all the "GF's" I did have .. well they just wanted to mooch of Jay and I for things and we gave because we could.
So when we talk about our <bold>FABULOUS</bold> plans because we are the bride and damn it we are allowed ... I just smile and forget about the people that can be rude and try to bring you down!!!
| Originally Posted by Hartyt509 |
My dad reckons that when I was about 1 yr or so,walking anyway lol, mum put me in a pink dress then put me to play and went upstairs lol
Dad said the dress was disgusting and so he was watching me and as soon as mum was out of sight the dress came off and i was trying to get the dog to pee on it lmao He didn't stop me lmfao
I'm so sorry your friend is being that way. I definitely had a similar situation. Get this: My best friend and MOH started acting weird and distant about anything to do with the wedding the moment I asked her to be my MOH. She wasn't happy at all and every time an event came up such as my shower and bachelorette party, she griped about money and made all the other bridesmaids feel bad about spending money. Long story short I asked her what was going on and told her that I didn't want her to spend ANY money on anything if she couldn't or didn't want to.
She tells me that she is reading a new book on Consumerism in America and how we need to fight against it and everything to do with my wedding is against her book. She said she is happy for my marriage but not my wedding and said she couldn't be happy for my wedding.
This was supposed to be my best friend. When I asked her to step down as MOH and just be a bridesmaid, she withdrew from the wedding all together and canceled her trip 2 months before the wedding which is September 20th!!
She also said we had gone in different directions and that we had fulfilled our purpose in each others lives. WTF
I am soooo sorry that you are going through this!!! A similar thing just occurred to me today... one of my closest friends and bm just told me today that she would only be in the wedding if I could promise that what happened (a huge fight) to us on a previous vacation wouldn't happen again...
Now I have been gathering information that others had been saying and I had the impression that she didn't want to be in the wedding anymore and that it was causing more stress in her life and she was just hanging on to not hurt my feelings. So I had a conversation with her about 3 weeks ago telling her not to feel obligated and that while I would be disappointed I wouldn't be mad if she felt like she could no longer fulfill her duties as a bm. And she insisted that it wasn't that at all.... So come to find out today that only her and her youngest daughter (our flowergirl) will be attending. That's fine it saves me about $1200 on their accommodations but I am disappointed that the whole family can't make it but I do understand...
I would have that same conversation with her... tell her that you DO need a cut off as to what her plans are... It seems that NO matter HOW LONG of time you give them to make their plans and save money....if it's not a priority to them then they will put it off as long as they want. It's upsetting and hurtful because these are people you consider to be close to you and you've asked them to be by your side on one the most important days of your lives and they don't seem to care....
Just be considerate and thoughtful in choice of words, while you are angry and hurt you don't risk another friendship over it. I think it's true what they say that weddings and funerals bring out the worst in people.