My FI's solution to the TTD problem

#21 Goldstein to Be

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Posted 30 July 2008 - 11:16 PM

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Originally Posted by ashrose

We kissed once or twice during the first month we knew each other. Then he left for Panama to do some mission work with an organization called YWAM. We thought we wouldnt ever see each other again.

While he was away, I started to deal with the crap that was in my past and realized that I was going to need a patient man to walk with me while I was on the road to healing. Sam agreed... and when he came back and decided to pursue me officially, we made the committment. He also apologized for kissing me without "guarding my heart" earlier in our relationship.

I don't think it is something other people should do... and its not something we are doing to be admired by others... we are doing it to love each other before marriage... and for us, this just happens to be the most loving.

You're story totally gives me chills! That is so sweet and romantic. I don't know very many people who would do this. I'm sure it is going to make the wedding even more special (if that's even possible). Now I can see why he wants to spend the ENTIRE day in bed. It's really awesome that you found someone so special.

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#22 Mandy

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Posted 30 July 2008 - 11:38 PM

How cool for you, AshleyRose, but there's no way I could do it unless I was getting married next WEEK (and barely even then!). I do know that you guys have other circumstances that are causing you to wait, but my goodness! Hang in there, girl!

#23 ashrose

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Posted 31 July 2008 - 12:21 AM

Sam takes liberal opportunity to kiss my cheek, my forehead, my hand... It makes me feel super safe.

Men have not been nice to me... starting with my dad. He was harsh and unloving and didn't give hugs or anything... I've flip flopped between the two extremes.

Sam values me, cherish me, and wants what is best for me. At this point, us not kissing on the mouth is what makes me feel safest and has let me build trust in him.

I think the pastor is going to have to pull him off me at the ceremony. The boy is definitely waiting for a kiss!

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#24 jajajaja

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Posted 31 July 2008 - 11:54 AM

That's wonderful. I'm so happy that you were able to find the perfect guy to help you get through it all. I had a lot of "trust" issues with men from my childhood as well so I know what it means to have a patient, loving man help you work through those fears! I can't wait for your wedding day though....

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#25 ashrose

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Posted 31 July 2008 - 01:32 PM

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Originally Posted by LC_Rachel

I can't wait either. I just know it is going to come so fast!

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#26 MelanieS

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Posted 31 July 2008 - 02:20 PM

One of Mandy's best friends and her FI decided no kissing before they got married. He had been a wildman bachelor before he met her, and they felt it would strengthen their relationship. Their first kiss was definitely "hot" and they didn't stick around very long after the reception.